>> THIS WEEK ON "TO THE >> THIS WEEK ON "TO THE CONTRARY" >> THIS WEEK ON "TO THE CONTRARY" FIRST SOME STARTLING DISCOVERIES CONTRARY" FIRST SOME STARTLING DISCOVERIES ABOUT MEN AND RAPE.
FIRST SOME STARTLING DISCOVERIES ABOUT MEN AND RAPE.
THEN, PARENTS GIVE ADOPTIVE ABOUT MEN AND RAPE.
THEN, PARENTS GIVE ADOPTIVE CHILDREN TO STRANGERS ONLINE.
THEN, PARENTS GIVE ADOPTIVE CHILDREN TO STRANGERS ONLINE.
BEHIND THE HEADLINES: HAVING CHILDREN TO STRANGERS ONLINE.
BEHIND THE HEADLINES: HAVING ONLY ONE CHILD MAY HAVE MANY BEHIND THE HEADLINES: HAVING ONLY ONE CHILD MAY HAVE MANY ADVANTAGES.
HELLO, I'M BONNIE ERBE.
HELLO, I'M BONNIE ERBE.
WELCOME TO "TO THE CONTRARY," A HELLO, I'M BONNIE ERBE.
WELCOME TO "TO THE CONTRARY," A DISCUSSION OF NEWS AND SOCIAL WELCOME TO "TO THE CONTRARY," A DISCUSSION OF NEWS AND SOCIAL TRENDS FROM DIVERSE DISCUSSION OF NEWS AND SOCIAL TRENDS FROM DIVERSE PERSPECTIVES.
TRENDS FROM DIVERSE PERSPECTIVES.
I FIRST, GLOBAL RAPE CONCERNS.
PERSPECTIVES.
I FIRST, GLOBAL RAPE CONCERNS.
ACROSS THE GLOBE CONCERNED I FIRST, GLOBAL RAPE CONCERNS.
ACROSS THE GLOBE CONCERNED CITIZENS ARE CALLING ON JUDICIAL ACROSS THE GLOBE CONCERNED CITIZENS ARE CALLING ON JUDICIAL SYSTEMS TO DO MORE TO STOP RAPE.
CITIZENS ARE CALLING ON JUDICIAL SYSTEMS TO DO MORE TO STOP RAPE.
IN INDIA THE DEATH PENALTY FOR SYSTEMS TO DO MORE TO STOP RAPE.
IN INDIA THE DEATH PENALTY FOR FOUR MEN CONVICTED THIS WEEK OF IN INDIA THE DEATH PENALTY FOR FOUR MEN CONVICTED THIS WEEK OF BRUTALLY BEATING AND RAPING A FOUR MEN CONVICTED THIS WEEK OF BRUTALLY BEATING AND RAPING A WOMAN ON A BUS.
BRUTALLY BEATING AND RAPING A WOMAN ON A BUS.
SHE DIED TWO WEEKS LATER.
WOMAN ON A BUS.
SHE DIED TWO WEEKS LATER.
AS A RESULT OF THE INTER SHE DIED TWO WEEKS LATER.
AS A RESULT OF THE INTER NATIONAL UPROAR THAT AS A RESULT OF THE INTER NATIONAL UPROAR THAT FOLLOWED, THE INDIAN GOVERNMENT NATIONAL UPROAR THAT FOLLOWED, THE INDIAN GOVERNMENT PASSED A LAW APPROVING THE DEATH FOLLOWED, THE INDIAN GOVERNMENT PASSED A LAW APPROVING THE DEATH PENALTY.
PASSED A LAW APPROVING THE DEATH PENALTY.
IN THE U.S., A NAVAL ACADEMY PENALTY.
IN THE U.S., A NAVAL ACADEMY CASE DREW INDIGNATION AFTER IN THE U.S., A NAVAL ACADEMY CASE DREW INDIGNATION AFTER DEFENSE ATTORNEYS ASKED THE CASE DREW INDIGNATION AFTER DEFENSE ATTORNEYS ASKED THE VICTIM VULGAR SEXUAL QUESTIONS.
DEFENSE ATTORNEYS ASKED THE VICTIM VULGAR SEXUAL QUESTIONS.
AND A JUDGE IN MONTANA WAS VICTIM VULGAR SEXUAL QUESTIONS.
AND A JUDGE IN MONTANA WAS CRITICIZED AND APOLOGIZED FOR AND A JUDGE IN MONTANA WAS CRITICIZED AND APOLOGIZED FOR SAYING AN UNDERAGE RAPE VICTIM CRITICIZED AND APOLOGIZED FOR SAYING AN UNDERAGE RAPE VICTIM WAS FULLY IN CONTROL OF HER SAYING AN UNDERAGE RAPE VICTIM WAS FULLY IN CONTROL OF HER SITUATION.
WAS FULLY IN CONTROL OF HER SITUATION.
THIS WEEK COMES A SHOCKING U.N. SITUATION.
THIS WEEK COMES A SHOCKING U.N. SURVEY OF MEN AND RAPE IN ASIA.
THIS WEEK COMES A SHOCKING U.N. SURVEY OF MEN AND RAPE IN ASIA.
ALMOST ONE IN FOUR MEN IN SIX SURVEY OF MEN AND RAPE IN ASIA.
ALMOST ONE IN FOUR MEN IN SIX ASIAN OR ASIAN-PACIFIC COUNTRIES ALMOST ONE IN FOUR MEN IN SIX ASIAN OR ASIAN-PACIFIC COUNTRIES ADMITTED TO RAPING ONE OR MORE ASIAN OR ASIAN-PACIFIC COUNTRIES ADMITTED TO RAPING ONE OR MORE WOMEN, ABOUT HALF, WHILE THEY ADMITTED TO RAPING ONE OR MORE WOMEN, ABOUT HALF, WHILE THEY WERE STILL TEENAGERS.
WOMEN, ABOUT HALF, WHILE THEY WERE STILL TEENAGERS.
MANY MEN SURVEYED SAID THEY WERE STILL TEENAGERS.
MANY MEN SURVEYED SAID THEY BELIEVED THEY HAD A RIGHT TO MANY MEN SURVEYED SAID THEY BELIEVED THEY HAD A RIGHT TO CONTROL WOMEN'S BODIES.
BELIEVED THEY HAD A RIGHT TO CONTROL WOMEN'S BODIES.
RATES OF RAPE ARE MUCH HIGHER IN CONTROL WOMEN'S BODIES.
RATES OF RAPE ARE MUCH HIGHER IN VIOLENCE- AND WAR-TORN SOCIETIES RATES OF RAPE ARE MUCH HIGHER IN VIOLENCE- AND WAR-TORN SOCIETIES SUCH AS PAPUA NEW GUINEA WHERE VIOLENCE- AND WAR-TORN SOCIETIES SUCH AS PAPUA NEW GUINEA WHERE CIVIL WAR RAGED FOR MORE THAN A SUCH AS PAPUA NEW GUINEA WHERE CIVIL WAR RAGED FOR MORE THAN A DECADE.
CIVIL WAR RAGED FOR MORE THAN A DECADE.
SO KIM GANDY IS THE ASIAN STUDY DECADE.
SO KIM GANDY IS THE ASIAN STUDY APPLICABLE TO MEN IN THE UNITED SO KIM GANDY IS THE ASIAN STUDY APPLICABLE TO MEN IN THE UNITED STATES?
APPLICABLE TO MEN IN THE UNITED STATES?
>> IN TERMS OF NUMBERS, FEWER STATES?
>> IN TERMS OF NUMBERS, FEWER U.S. MEN COMMIT RAPE.
>> IN TERMS OF NUMBERS, FEWER U.S. MEN COMMIT RAPE.
BUT OF THOSE WHO DO RAPE THE U.S. MEN COMMIT RAPE.
BUT OF THOSE WHO DO RAPE THE VAST MAJORITY OF THEM ARE REPEAT BUT OF THOSE WHO DO RAPE THE VAST MAJORITY OF THEM ARE REPEAT RAPISTS COMMITTING DOZENS EVEN VAST MAJORITY OF THEM ARE REPEAT RAPISTS COMMITTING DOZENS EVEN HUNDREDS IN A LIFETIME.
RAPISTS COMMITTING DOZENS EVEN HUNDREDS IN A LIFETIME.
>> ONE OF THE BIGGEST HUNDREDS IN A LIFETIME.
>> ONE OF THE BIGGEST DISTINCTION BETWEEN UNITED >> ONE OF THE BIGGEST DISTINCTION BETWEEN UNITED STATES AND THOSE ASIAN PACIFIC DISTINCTION BETWEEN UNITED STATES AND THOSE ASIAN PACIFIC AND AFRICAN AN MIDDLE EASTERN STATES AND THOSE ASIAN PACIFIC AND AFRICAN AN MIDDLE EASTERN COUNTRIES IS THAT WOMEN IN THOSE AND AFRICAN AN MIDDLE EASTERN COUNTRIES IS THAT WOMEN IN THOSE COUNTRIES ARE STILL TREATED AS COUNTRIES IS THAT WOMEN IN THOSE COUNTRIES ARE STILL TREATED AS PROPERTY.
COUNTRIES ARE STILL TREATED AS PROPERTY.
WHERE AS HERE IN THE STATES PROPERTY.
WHERE AS HERE IN THE STATES WOMEN HAVE EMPOWERMENT.
WHERE AS HERE IN THE STATES WOMEN HAVE EMPOWERMENT.
>> I THINK THE BIGGEST ISSUE TO WOMEN HAVE EMPOWERMENT.
>> I THINK THE BIGGEST ISSUE TO TAKE AWAY THERE IS STILL >> I THINK THE BIGGEST ISSUE TO TAKE AWAY THERE IS STILL VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN TAKE AWAY THERE IS STILL VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN REGARDLESS OF THE ECONOMIC VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN REGARDLESS OF THE ECONOMIC STATUS OF THE COUNTRY WHETHER REGARDLESS OF THE ECONOMIC STATUS OF THE COUNTRY WHETHER YOU'RE THIRD WORLD OR DEVELOPED STATUS OF THE COUNTRY WHETHER YOU'RE THIRD WORLD OR DEVELOPED IT'S STILL AN ISSUE.
YOU'RE THIRD WORLD OR DEVELOPED IT'S STILL AN ISSUE.
>> THIS IS AN ISSUE OF GENDER IT'S STILL AN ISSUE.
>> THIS IS AN ISSUE OF GENDER INEQUALITY.
>> THIS IS AN ISSUE OF GENDER INEQUALITY.
BECAUSE OVER THERE I FEEL THEIR INEQUALITY.
BECAUSE OVER THERE I FEEL THEIR CULTURE SAYS I CAN DO THAT BECAUSE OVER THERE I FEEL THEIR CULTURE SAYS I CAN DO THAT BECAUSE SHE DRESSED A CERTAIN CULTURE SAYS I CAN DO THAT BECAUSE SHE DRESSED A CERTAIN WAY OR SHE'S A WOMAN SHE'S BECAUSE SHE DRESSED A CERTAIN WAY OR SHE'S A WOMAN SHE'S LESSER THAN ME.
WAY OR SHE'S A WOMAN SHE'S LESSER THAN ME.
>> ALSO A LOT OF THESE -- LET'S LESSER THAN ME.
>> ALSO A LOT OF THESE -- LET'S GO THROUGH THE SURVEY COUNTRY BY >> ALSO A LOT OF THESE -- LET'S GO THROUGH THE SURVEY COUNTRY BY COUNTRY BECAUSE THERE WERE SIX GO THROUGH THE SURVEY COUNTRY BY COUNTRY BECAUSE THERE WERE SIX COUNTRIES THE WORST WAS 66% OF COUNTRY BECAUSE THERE WERE SIX COUNTRIES THE WORST WAS 66% OF MEN SAID THAT THEY HAD RAPED COUNTRIES THE WORST WAS 66% OF MEN SAID THAT THEY HAD RAPED SOMEONE, USUALLY A PARTNER.
MEN SAID THAT THEY HAD RAPED SOMEONE, USUALLY A PARTNER.
AND SOMEBODY WHILE THEY WERE SOMEONE, USUALLY A PARTNER.
AND SOMEBODY WHILE THEY WERE STILL TEENAGERS THE MEN WERE AND SOMEBODY WHILE THEY WERE STILL TEENAGERS THE MEN WERE STILL TEENAGERS.
STILL TEENAGERS THE MEN WERE STILL TEENAGERS.
WAS PAPUA NEW GUINEA WAS A WAR STILL TEENAGERS.
WAS PAPUA NEW GUINEA WAS A WAR ZONE FOR TEN YEARS WHEN THE WAS PAPUA NEW GUINEA WAS A WAR ZONE FOR TEN YEARS WHEN THE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOW ANSWERING ZONE FOR TEN YEARS WHEN THE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOW ANSWERING THOSE QUESTIONS WOULD HAVE BEEN PEOPLE WHO ARE NOW ANSWERING THOSE QUESTIONS WOULD HAVE BEEN CHILDREN.
THOSE QUESTIONS WOULD HAVE BEEN CHILDREN.
BUT I WONDER ABOUT PLACES LIKE CHILDREN.
BUT I WONDER ABOUT PLACES LIKE WASHINGTON, D.C., CHICAGO, BUT I WONDER ABOUT PLACES LIKE WASHINGTON, D.C., CHICAGO, NEW YORK CITY, PLACES WITH A LOT WASHINGTON, D.C., CHICAGO, NEW YORK CITY, PLACES WITH A LOT OF GUN VIOLENCE.
NEW YORK CITY, PLACES WITH A LOT OF GUN VIOLENCE.
WOULD THOSE KINDS -- WOULD THAT OF GUN VIOLENCE.
WOULD THOSE KINDS -- WOULD THAT SPUR THAT KIND OF VIOLENCE WOULD WOULD THOSE KINDS -- WOULD THAT SPUR THAT KIND OF VIOLENCE WOULD THAT SPUR THAT THINKING AMONG SPUR THAT KIND OF VIOLENCE WOULD THAT SPUR THAT THINKING AMONG AMERICAN MEN?
THAT SPUR THAT THINKING AMONG AMERICAN MEN?
>> WE DO KNOW THAT RAPE IS A AMERICAN MEN?
>> WE DO KNOW THAT RAPE IS A CRIME OF POWER AND CONTROL AND >> WE DO KNOW THAT RAPE IS A CRIME OF POWER AND CONTROL AND VIOLENCE.
CRIME OF POWER AND CONTROL AND VIOLENCE.
IT'S NOT A SEXUAL CRIME.
VIOLENCE.
IT'S NOT A SEXUAL CRIME.
WHENEVER YOU HAVE EXTRAORDINARY IT'S NOT A SEXUAL CRIME.
WHENEVER YOU HAVE EXTRAORDINARY LEVEL OF VIOLENCE IT'S LIKELY TO WHENEVER YOU HAVE EXTRAORDINARY LEVEL OF VIOLENCE IT'S LIKELY TO INCREASE SEXUAL VIOLENCE AS WELL LEVEL OF VIOLENCE IT'S LIKELY TO INCREASE SEXUAL VIOLENCE AS WELL AS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
INCREASE SEXUAL VIOLENCE AS WELL AS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
>> I THOUGHT IT WAS INTERESTING AS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
>> I THOUGHT IT WAS INTERESTING THAT THE STUDY THEY DIDN'T USE >> I THOUGHT IT WAS INTERESTING THAT THE STUDY THEY DIDN'T USE THE TERM "RAPE" I GUESS HEN THEY THAT THE STUDY THEY DIDN'T USE THE TERM "RAPE" I GUESS HEN THEY INTERVIEWED THE MEN THEY TALKED THE TERM "RAPE" I GUESS HEN THEY INTERVIEWED THE MEN THEY TALKED ABOUT, HAVE YOU FORCED YOURSELF INTERVIEWED THE MEN THEY TALKED ABOUT, HAVE YOU FORCED YOURSELF ON WOMEN.
ABOUT, HAVE YOU FORCED YOURSELF ON WOMEN.
>> THEY DIDN'T USE THE TERM ON WOMEN.
>> THEY DIDN'T USE THE TERM RAPE.
>> THEY DIDN'T USE THE TERM RAPE.
>> AND THEY WERE -- YEAH, I RAPE.
>> AND THEY WERE -- YEAH, I THINK THAT IN THEIR MINDS >> AND THEY WERE -- YEAH, I THINK THAT IN THEIR MINDS UNFORTUNATELY IN THOSE COUNTRIES THINK THAT IN THEIR MINDS UNFORTUNATELY IN THOSE COUNTRIES MEN BELIEVE IT'S OKAY BECAUSE UNFORTUNATELY IN THOSE COUNTRIES MEN BELIEVE IT'S OKAY BECAUSE THEY HAD THE POWER.
MEN BELIEVE IT'S OKAY BECAUSE THEY HAD THE POWER.
>> I THINK WE SHOULD TAKE PAUSE THEY HAD THE POWER.
>> I THINK WE SHOULD TAKE PAUSE SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING WITHIN OUR >> I THINK WE SHOULD TAKE PAUSE SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING WITHIN OUR OWN MILITARY BRASS THE WHOLE SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING WITHIN OUR OWN MILITARY BRASS THE WHOLE LEGISLATION THAT HAS BEEN PUT OWN MILITARY BRASS THE WHOLE LEGISLATION THAT HAS BEEN PUT FORWARD SAYING WE NEED TO LEGISLATION THAT HAS BEEN PUT FORWARD SAYING WE NEED TO PROTECT WOMEN IN THE MILITARY FORWARD SAYING WE NEED TO PROTECT WOMEN IN THE MILITARY BECAUSE IT IS A PROBLEM.
PROTECT WOMEN IN THE MILITARY BECAUSE IT IS A PROBLEM.
AND WE CAN HAVE IN OUR HIGH BECAUSE IT IS A PROBLEM.
AND WE CAN HAVE IN OUR HIGH ECHELONS OF POWER WHERE PEOPLE AND WE CAN HAVE IN OUR HIGH ECHELONS OF POWER WHERE PEOPLE ARE -- WOMEN ARE FEELING ECHELONS OF POWER WHERE PEOPLE ARE -- WOMEN ARE FEELING VULNERABLE THAT MEANS SOMETHING ARE -- WOMEN ARE FEELING VULNERABLE THAT MEANS SOMETHING THAT HOUR SOCIETY ACTUALLY NEEDS VULNERABLE THAT MEANS SOMETHING THAT HOUR SOCIETY ACTUALLY NEEDS TO ADDRESS AND ADDRESS IT THAT HOUR SOCIETY ACTUALLY NEEDS TO ADDRESS AND ADDRESS IT SERIOUSLY.
TO ADDRESS AND ADDRESS IT SERIOUSLY.
>> PART OF THIS, TOO, PART OF SERIOUSLY.
>> PART OF THIS, TOO, PART OF THIS DISCUSSION IS ABOUT >> PART OF THIS, TOO, PART OF THIS DISCUSSION IS ABOUT JUDICIAL SYSTEMS HOW THEY THIS DISCUSSION IS ABOUT JUDICIAL SYSTEMS HOW THEY RESPOND YOU PICKED UP THE JUDICIAL SYSTEMS HOW THEY RESPOND YOU PICKED UP THE PERFECT EXAMPLE OF CHANGING RESPOND YOU PICKED UP THE PERFECT EXAMPLE OF CHANGING SENATOR GILLEBRAND WANTS TO MOVE PERFECT EXAMPLE OF CHANGING SENATOR GILLEBRAND WANTS TO MOVE THE PROSECUTORIAL POWERS AWAY SENATOR GILLEBRAND WANTS TO MOVE THE PROSECUTORIAL POWERS AWAY FROM THE CHAIN OF COMMAND AND THE PROSECUTORIAL POWERS AWAY FROM THE CHAIN OF COMMAND AND GIVE THEM TO SPECIALISTS IN THE FROM THE CHAIN OF COMMAND AND GIVE THEM TO SPECIALISTS IN THE JAG WHO ARE TRAINED TO DO THESE GIVE THEM TO SPECIALISTS IN THE JAG WHO ARE TRAINED TO DO THESE KINDS OF THINGS.
JAG WHO ARE TRAINED TO DO THESE KINDS OF THINGS.
DO WE NEED MORE FROM OUR KINDS OF THINGS.
DO WE NEED MORE FROM OUR JUDICIAL SYSTEM TO PROTECT SUPER DO WE NEED MORE FROM OUR JUDICIAL SYSTEM TO PROTECT SUPER BOWL.
JUDICIAL SYSTEM TO PROTECT SUPER BOWL.
>> THE LAWS ARE ON THE BOOKS, BOWL.
>> THE LAWS ARE ON THE BOOKS, IT'S A MATTER OF ENFORCEMENT.
>> THE LAWS ARE ON THE BOOKS, IT'S A MATTER OF ENFORCEMENT.
WE NEED TO MAKE SURE THAT WOMEN IT'S A MATTER OF ENFORCEMENT.
WE NEED TO MAKE SURE THAT WOMEN FEEL NOT AFRAID TO COME FORWARD, WE NEED TO MAKE SURE THAT WOMEN FEEL NOT AFRAID TO COME FORWARD, THAT IS PART OF THE PROBLEM.
FEEL NOT AFRAID TO COME FORWARD, THAT IS PART OF THE PROBLEM.
THEY ARE AFRAID IF THEY COME THAT IS PART OF THE PROBLEM.
THEY ARE AFRAID IF THEY COME FORWARD THEY'RE GOING TO BE THEY ARE AFRAID IF THEY COME FORWARD THEY'RE GOING TO BE RETALIATION, RETRIBUTION FROM FORWARD THEY'RE GOING TO BE RETALIATION, RETRIBUTION FROM THE FERN WHO DID IT TO ME OR GO RETALIATION, RETRIBUTION FROM THE FERN WHO DID IT TO ME OR GO TO THE SYSTEM WHERE I'M NOTE THE FERN WHO DID IT TO ME OR GO TO THE SYSTEM WHERE I'M NOTE GOING TO GET THE RESPECT AND TO THE SYSTEM WHERE I'M NOTE GOING TO GET THE RESPECT AND HAVE MY CASE TRIED PROPERLY.
GOING TO GET THE RESPECT AND HAVE MY CASE TRIED PROPERLY.
THERE ARE NUMBER OF THINGS THAT HAVE MY CASE TRIED PROPERLY.
THERE ARE NUMBER OF THINGS THAT NEED TO BE LOOKED AT NOT THERE ARE NUMBER OF THINGS THAT NEED TO BE LOOKED AT NOT NECESSARILY CHANGING THE LAWS NEED TO BE LOOKED AT NOT NECESSARILY CHANGING THE LAWS BUT MAKING SURE THEY'RE ENFORCED NECESSARILY CHANGING THE LAWS BUT MAKING SURE THEY'RE ENFORCED PROPERLY.
BUT MAKING SURE THEY'RE ENFORCED PROPERLY.
>> AND YOU'RE AN ASIAN-AMERICAN, PROPERLY.
>> AND YOU'RE AN ASIAN-AMERICAN, YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON THIS IS >> AND YOU'RE AN ASIAN-AMERICAN, YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME.
YOUR PERSPECTIVE ON THIS IS REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME.
>> MY HOME OF INDIA IS SUCH A REALLY IMPORTANT TO ME.
>> MY HOME OF INDIA IS SUCH A CHANGE AS TO WHAT HAPPENED THIS >> MY HOME OF INDIA IS SUCH A CHANGE AS TO WHAT HAPPENED THIS PAST DECEMBER.
CHANGE AS TO WHAT HAPPENED THIS PAST DECEMBER.
ALMOST A YEAR AGO, THE JUDICIAL PAST DECEMBER.
ALMOST A YEAR AGO, THE JUDICIAL SYSTEM OVER THERE HAS COME OUT ALMOST A YEAR AGO, THE JUDICIAL SYSTEM OVER THERE HAS COME OUT SAYING THESE MORE MEN ARE SYSTEM OVER THERE HAS COME OUT SAYING THESE MORE MEN ARE SENTENCED TO DEATH FOR A MEN WHO SAYING THESE MORE MEN ARE SENTENCED TO DEATH FOR A MEN WHO TOOK PARCEL IN A GANG RAPE ARE SENTENCED TO DEATH FOR A MEN WHO TOOK PARCEL IN A GANG RAPE ARE NOW MEETING A SENTENCE OF DEATH TOOK PARCEL IN A GANG RAPE ARE NOW MEETING A SENTENCE OF DEATH THAT MEANS SOMETHING OVER THERE.
NOW MEETING A SENTENCE OF DEATH THAT MEANS SOMETHING OVER THERE.
JUDICIAL REFORM IS HAPPENING THAT MEANS SOMETHING OVER THERE.
JUDICIAL REFORM IS HAPPENING HERE WE'RE LUCKY THAT WE MAKE JUDICIAL REFORM IS HAPPENING HERE WE'RE LUCKY THAT WE MAKE GREAT STRIDES IN INDIA IT HERE WE'RE LUCKY THAT WE MAKE GREAT STRIDES IN INDIA IT CERTAINLY CONCERNING THAT PEOPLE GREAT STRIDES IN INDIA IT CERTAINLY CONCERNING THAT PEOPLE WOULD STILL SAY, GOSH, POLITICAL CERTAINLY CONCERNING THAT PEOPLE WOULD STILL SAY, GOSH, POLITICAL MOVE THAT THIS JUDGE CAME DOWN WOULD STILL SAY, GOSH, POLITICAL MOVE THAT THIS JUDGE CAME DOWN THAT THESE FOUR MEN DESERVE MOVE THAT THIS JUDGE CAME DOWN THAT THESE FOUR MEN DESERVE DEATH.
THAT THESE FOUR MEN DESERVE DEATH.
IT'S A GREAT THING, DEVELOPMENTS DEATH.
IT'S A GREAT THING, DEVELOPMENTS OVER THERE, SAD AS THEY ARE IT'S A GREAT THING, DEVELOPMENTS OVER THERE, SAD AS THEY ARE THERE IS CHANGE HAPPENING.
OVER THERE, SAD AS THEY ARE THERE IS CHANGE HAPPENING.
>> DO YOU THINK INDIA IS -- I THERE IS CHANGE HAPPENING.
>> DO YOU THINK INDIA IS -- I CAN'T AND CHINA -- INDIA WAS NOT >> DO YOU THINK INDIA IS -- I CAN'T AND CHINA -- INDIA WAS NOT PART OF THE SURVEY, ARE COMING CAN'T AND CHINA -- INDIA WAS NOT PART OF THE SURVEY, ARE COMING ALONG ECONOMICALLY TO THE POINT PART OF THE SURVEY, ARE COMING ALONG ECONOMICALLY TO THE POINT WHERE THEY'RE RIVALS WITH THE ALONG ECONOMICALLY TO THE POINT WHERE THEY'RE RIVALS WITH THE UNITED STATES TO BECOME THE WHERE THEY'RE RIVALS WITH THE UNITED STATES TO BECOME THE WORLD'S ECONOMIC POWER.
UNITED STATES TO BECOME THE WORLD'S ECONOMIC POWER.
WHY ARE WE NOT SEEING MORE WORLD'S ECONOMIC POWER.
WHY ARE WE NOT SEEING MORE ADVANCEMENT IN TERMS OF CULTURAL WHY ARE WE NOT SEEING MORE ADVANCEMENT IN TERMS OF CULTURAL VALUES ABOUT WOMEN.
ADVANCEMENT IN TERMS OF CULTURAL VALUES ABOUT WOMEN.
>> WITH THE ECONOMIC FREEDOM YOU VALUES ABOUT WOMEN.
>> WITH THE ECONOMIC FREEDOM YOU WOULD THINK THERE WOULD BE >> WITH THE ECONOMIC FREEDOM YOU WOULD THINK THERE WOULD BE GREATER POWER IN THE HANDS OF WOULD THINK THERE WOULD BE GREATER POWER IN THE HANDS OF WOMEN.
GREATER POWER IN THE HANDS OF WOMEN.
THOSE ARE WHO WORKING IN THE WOMEN.
THOSE ARE WHO WORKING IN THE WORKFORCE AND GREATER NUMBERS IN THOSE ARE WHO WORKING IN THE WORKFORCE AND GREATER NUMBERS IN COUNTRIES LIKE INDIA AND CHINA A WORKFORCE AND GREATER NUMBERS IN COUNTRIES LIKE INDIA AND CHINA A GREAT THING TO SEE.
COUNTRIES LIKE INDIA AND CHINA A GREAT THING TO SEE.
BUT THESE ARE CULTURALLY GREAT THING TO SEE.
BUT THESE ARE CULTURALLY EMBEDDED NORMS THAT IS GOING TO BUT THESE ARE CULTURALLY EMBEDDED NORMS THAT IS GOING TO TAKE A LONG TIME TO CAKE, GOING EMBEDDED NORMS THAT IS GOING TO TAKE A LONG TIME TO CAKE, GOING TO TAKE GENERATIONS TO CHANGE.
TAKE A LONG TIME TO CAKE, GOING TO TAKE GENERATIONS TO CHANGE.
IT'S CHANGE CERTAINLY WITH FOLKS TO TAKE GENERATIONS TO CHANGE.
IT'S CHANGE CERTAINLY WITH FOLKS LIKE MY PARENTS WHO I AM GRATED IT'S CHANGE CERTAINLY WITH FOLKS LIKE MY PARENTS WHO I AM GRATED HERE AND SEEN A DIFFERENT LIKE MY PARENTS WHO I AM GRATED HERE AND SEEN A DIFFERENT SYSTEM, CERTAIN THINGS ARE JUST HERE AND SEEN A DIFFERENT SYSTEM, CERTAIN THINGS ARE JUST NOT BEING REPRESENTABLE WHAT SYSTEM, CERTAIN THINGS ARE JUST NOT BEING REPRESENTABLE WHAT THEY DID TO THAT GIRL TO INDIA.
NOT BEING REPRESENTABLE WHAT THEY DID TO THAT GIRL TO INDIA.
SHE HAD A MALE FRIEND WITH HER.
THEY DID TO THAT GIRL TO INDIA.
SHE HAD A MALE FRIEND WITH HER.
>> HER FIANCE.
SHE HAD A MALE FRIEND WITH HER.
>> HER FIANCE.
>> SHE WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF >> HER FIANCE.
>> SHE WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF WITH A ROD.
>> SHE WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF WITH A ROD.
>> THEN THIS WEEK, THIS PAST WITH A ROD.
>> THEN THIS WEEK, THIS PAST WEEK A 7-YEAR-OLD -- SHE DID DIE >> THEN THIS WEEK, THIS PAST WEEK A 7-YEAR-OLD -- SHE DID DIE FROM HER INJURIES.
WEEK A 7-YEAR-OLD -- SHE DID DIE FROM HER INJURIES.
WE CERTAINLY HAVE THE DEATH FROM HER INJURIES.
WE CERTAINLY HAVE THE DEATH PENALTY SHOULD INDIA NOW PASSED WE CERTAINLY HAVE THE DEATH PENALTY SHOULD INDIA NOW PASSED IT THAT SHOCKED THE CONSCIENCE PENALTY SHOULD INDIA NOW PASSED IT THAT SHOCKED THE CONSCIENCE IN INDIA, SHOULD WE BE USING THE IT THAT SHOCKED THE CONSCIENCE IN INDIA, SHOULD WE BE USING THE DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE?
IN INDIA, SHOULD WE BE USING THE DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE?
>> WE DON'T HAVE THE DEATH DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE?
>> WE DON'T HAVE THE DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE IN THIS COUNTRY >> WE DON'T HAVE THE DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE IN THIS COUNTRY ANY LONGER.
PENALTY FOR RAPE IN THIS COUNTRY ANY LONGER.
>> WE DID?
ANY LONGER.
>> WE DID?
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> WE DID?
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> WHEN?
>> ABSOLUTELY.
>> WHEN?
>> WHEN I WAS A PROSECUTOR IN >> WHEN?
>> WHEN I WAS A PROSECUTOR IN LOUISIANA WE HAD DEATH PENALTY >> WHEN I WAS A PROSECUTOR IN LOUISIANA WE HAD DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE.
LOUISIANA WE HAD DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE.
IT WAS OVERTURNED BY THE SUPREME FOR RAPE.
IT WAS OVERTURNED BY THE SUPREME COURT.
IT WAS OVERTURNED BY THE SUPREME COURT.
BUT IN THIS CASE IT WAS A RAPE COURT.
BUT IN THIS CASE IT WAS A RAPE THAT ENDED IN MURDER.
BUT IN THIS CASE IT WAS A RAPE THAT ENDED IN MURDER.
>> SO.
THAT ENDED IN MURDER.
>> SO.
THIS WAS A MURDER.
>> SO.
THIS WAS A MURDER.
>> EXACTLY.
THIS WAS A MURDER.
>> EXACTLY.
BUT ABSENT MURDER SHOULD WE GO >> EXACTLY.
BUT ABSENT MURDER SHOULD WE GO BACK TO HAVING RAPE -- OBVIOUSLY BUT ABSENT MURDER SHOULD WE GO BACK TO HAVING RAPE -- OBVIOUSLY THE SUPREME COURT HAS IT -- BACK TO HAVING RAPE -- OBVIOUSLY THE SUPREME COURT HAS IT -- SHOULD STATES STILL BE TRYING TO THE SUPREME COURT HAS IT -- SHOULD STATES STILL BE TRYING TO PASS DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE?
SHOULD STATES STILL BE TRYING TO PASS DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE?
>> I THINK WHAT WE NEED TO DO PASS DEATH PENALTY FOR RAPE?
>> I THINK WHAT WE NEED TO DO HAVE BROADER CONVERSATION WITH >> I THINK WHAT WE NEED TO DO HAVE BROADER CONVERSATION WITH THE PUBLIC AND BASICALLY MAKING HAVE BROADER CONVERSATION WITH THE PUBLIC AND BASICALLY MAKING SURE THERE THERE IS SAFE THE PUBLIC AND BASICALLY MAKING SURE THERE THERE IS SAFE ENVIRONMENT FOR WOMEN TO COME SURE THERE THERE IS SAFE ENVIRONMENT FOR WOMEN TO COME OUT THAT THE VICTIM ISN'T THE ENVIRONMENT FOR WOMEN TO COME OUT THAT THE VICTIM ISN'T THE ONE THAT IS PUT ON TRIAL.
OUT THAT THE VICTIM ISN'T THE ONE THAT IS PUT ON TRIAL.
WHEN YOU GO DEEP IN TO IMMIGRANT ONE THAT IS PUT ON TRIAL.
WHEN YOU GO DEEP IN TO IMMIGRANT COMMUNITIES THEY WILL MOST WHEN YOU GO DEEP IN TO IMMIGRANT COMMUNITIES THEY WILL MOST OFTENTIMES WHETHER THEY'RE COMMUNITIES THEY WILL MOST OFTENTIMES WHETHER THEY'RE ASIAN, LATINO, WHAT HAVE YOU OFTENTIMES WHETHER THEY'RE ASIAN, LATINO, WHAT HAVE YOU WOMEN AND CHILDREN WON'T REPORT ASIAN, LATINO, WHAT HAVE YOU WOMEN AND CHILDREN WON'T REPORT CASES OF ABUSE BECAUSE THEY'RE WOMEN AND CHILDREN WON'T REPORT CASES OF ABUSE BECAUSE THEY'RE AFRAID TO CALL THE AUTHORITIES CASES OF ABUSE BECAUSE THEY'RE AFRAID TO CALL THE AUTHORITIES BECAUSE THEY DON'T HAVE ANY AFRAID TO CALL THE AUTHORITIES BECAUSE THEY DON'T HAVE ANY PROTECTION AGAINST THE LAW.
BECAUSE THEY DON'T HAVE ANY PROTECTION AGAINST THE LAW.
WHEN YOU LOOK AT WHAT HAPPENED PROTECTION AGAINST THE LAW.
WHEN YOU LOOK AT WHAT HAPPENED IN INDIA THE REASON THAT THIS WHEN YOU LOOK AT WHAT HAPPENED IN INDIA THE REASON THAT THIS WENT TO TRIAL SO QUICKLY AND IN INDIA THE REASON THAT THIS WENT TO TRIAL SO QUICKLY AND THAT THEY WERE -- WASN'T BECAUSE WENT TO TRIAL SO QUICKLY AND THAT THEY WERE -- WASN'T BECAUSE INDIA BUT IT WAS INTERNATIONAL THAT THEY WERE -- WASN'T BECAUSE INDIA BUT IT WAS INTERNATIONAL INCIDENT.
INDIA BUT IT WAS INTERNATIONAL INCIDENT.
AND BY SHEDDING LIGHT ON THAT INCIDENT.
AND BY SHEDDING LIGHT ON THAT INJUSTICE THAT VOCALIZATION THAT AND BY SHEDDING LIGHT ON THAT INJUSTICE THAT VOCALIZATION THAT HAPPENED ONLINE SO QUICKLY ALL INJUSTICE THAT VOCALIZATION THAT HAPPENED ONLINE SO QUICKLY ALL OF A SUDDEN PUT A LIGHT ON WHAT HAPPENED ONLINE SO QUICKLY ALL OF A SUDDEN PUT A LIGHT ON WHAT WAS HAPPENING, IT WAS ONE OF OF A SUDDEN PUT A LIGHT ON WHAT WAS HAPPENING, IT WAS ONE OF MANY UNFORTUNATELY CASES.
WAS HAPPENING, IT WAS ONE OF MANY UNFORTUNATELY CASES.
BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY THE MANY UNFORTUNATELY CASES.
BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY THE GOVERNMENT REALIZED THEYED THAT BUT MORE IMPORTANTLY THE GOVERNMENT REALIZED THEYED THAT TO MODERNIZE THEMSELVES THEY GOVERNMENT REALIZED THEYED THAT TO MODERNIZE THEMSELVES THEY WANT TO COMPETE GLOBALLY.
TO MODERNIZE THEMSELVES THEY WANT TO COMPETE GLOBALLY.
>> ALL RIGHT.
WANT TO COMPETE GLOBALLY.
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FROM RAPE TO ADOPTION.
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FROM RAPE TO ADOPTION.
AN INVESTIGATION THIS WEEK BY FROM RAPE TO ADOPTION.
AN INVESTIGATION THIS WEEK BY NBC NEWS AND REUTERS REVEALS A AN INVESTIGATION THIS WEEK BY NBC NEWS AND REUTERS REVEALS A SORDID BUT APPARENTLY GROWING NBC NEWS AND REUTERS REVEALS A SORDID BUT APPARENTLY GROWING PRACTICE OF ADOPTIVE PARENTS SORDID BUT APPARENTLY GROWING PRACTICE OF ADOPTIVE PARENTS USING THE INTERNET TO RE-HOME PRACTICE OF ADOPTIVE PARENTS USING THE INTERNET TO RE-HOME CHILDREN THEY'VE ADOPTED IN THE USING THE INTERNET TO RE-HOME CHILDREN THEY'VE ADOPTED IN THE U.S.
BUT MORE OFTEN OVERSEAS CHILDREN THEY'VE ADOPTED IN THE U.S.
BUT MORE OFTEN OVERSEAS WHOM THEY REGRET ADOPTING.
U.S.
BUT MORE OFTEN OVERSEAS WHOM THEY REGRET ADOPTING.
YES, WE SAID "RE-HOMING,"--A WHOM THEY REGRET ADOPTING.
YES, WE SAID "RE-HOMING,"--A TERM USUALLY USED BY PET OWNERS YES, WE SAID "RE-HOMING,"--A TERM USUALLY USED BY PET OWNERS SEEKING NEW HOMES FOR THEIR TERM USUALLY USED BY PET OWNERS SEEKING NEW HOMES FOR THEIR PETS.
SEEKING NEW HOMES FOR THEIR PETS.
THE INVESTIGATION FOUND THERE IS PETS.
THE INVESTIGATION FOUND THERE IS LITTLE IF ANY OVERSIGHT AND MANY THE INVESTIGATION FOUND THERE IS LITTLE IF ANY OVERSIGHT AND MANY TIMES CHILDREN ARE LEFT WITH LITTLE IF ANY OVERSIGHT AND MANY TIMES CHILDREN ARE LEFT WITH ABUSIVE ADULTS WHO USE THE TIMES CHILDREN ARE LEFT WITH ABUSIVE ADULTS WHO USE THE ADOPTION AS A WAY TO CLAIM TAX ABUSIVE ADULTS WHO USE THE ADOPTION AS A WAY TO CLAIM TAX DEDUCTIONS OR OTHER GOVERNMENT ADOPTION AS A WAY TO CLAIM TAX DEDUCTIONS OR OTHER GOVERNMENT BENEFITS.
DEDUCTIONS OR OTHER GOVERNMENT BENEFITS.
THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS SAY WITHOUT BENEFITS.
THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS SAY WITHOUT POST-ADOPTION SERVICES THIS IS THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS SAY WITHOUT POST-ADOPTION SERVICES THIS IS THEIR ONLY WAY OUT OF A BAD POST-ADOPTION SERVICES THIS IS THEIR ONLY WAY OUT OF A BAD SITUATION.
THEIR ONLY WAY OUT OF A BAD SITUATION.
SOME OF THE WEBSITE GROUPS, ON SITUATION.
SOME OF THE WEBSITE GROUPS, ON YAHOO FOR EXAMPLE, HAVE BEEN SOME OF THE WEBSITE GROUPS, ON YAHOO FOR EXAMPLE, HAVE BEEN TAKEN DOWN, BUT NOT ALL OF THEM.
YAHOO FOR EXAMPLE, HAVE BEEN TAKEN DOWN, BUT NOT ALL OF THEM.
SO, MARIA TERESA KUMAR, HOW CAN TAKEN DOWN, BUT NOT ALL OF THEM.
SO, MARIA TERESA KUMAR, HOW CAN YOU ADOPT A CHILD FROM A FOREIGN SO, MARIA TERESA KUMAR, HOW CAN YOU ADOPT A CHILD FROM A FOREIGN COUNTRY, SOME OF THEM WERE U.S. YOU ADOPT A CHILD FROM A FOREIGN COUNTRY, SOME OF THEM WERE U.S. ADOPTIONS, AND THEN JUST PASS IT COUNTRY, SOME OF THEM WERE U.S. ADOPTIONS, AND THEN JUST PASS IT OFF WHEN THE ADOPTION DOESN'T ADOPTIONS, AND THEN JUST PASS IT OFF WHEN THE ADOPTION DOESN'T WORK OUT?
OFF WHEN THE ADOPTION DOESN'T WORK OUT?
>> NOT ONLY PASS IT OFF BUT PASS WORK OUT?
>> NOT ONLY PASS IT OFF BUT PASS OFF UNDER THE RADAR WITHOUT ANY >> NOT ONLY PASS IT OFF BUT PASS OFF UNDER THE RADAR WITHOUT ANY GOVERNMENT OVERSIGHT.
OFF UNDER THE RADAR WITHOUT ANY GOVERNMENT OVERSIGHT.
OF WHAT HAPPENS TO THIS CHILD.
GOVERNMENT OVERSIGHT.
OF WHAT HAPPENS TO THIS CHILD.
WITH SOME OF THE BACKGROUND THAT OF WHAT HAPPENS TO THIS CHILD.
WITH SOME OF THE BACKGROUND THAT I WAS READING I WAS SURPRISED WITH SOME OF THE BACKGROUND THAT I WAS READING I WAS SURPRISED THAT ONE OF THE ADOPTIVE I WAS READING I WAS SURPRISED THAT ONE OF THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS, THEY DON'T COME WITH A THAT ONE OF THE ADOPTIVE PARENTS, THEY DON'T COME WITH A PAN WALL.
PARENTS, THEY DON'T COME WITH A PAN WALL.
WELL, WE KNOW THAT.
PAN WALL.
WELL, WE KNOW THAT.
BUT -- WELL, WE KNOW THAT.
BUT -- >> THAT'S A LINE WHEN CHER SAID BUT -- >> THAT'S A LINE WHEN CHER SAID TO HER DAUGHTER, YOU DIDN'T COME >> THAT'S A LINE WHEN CHER SAID TO HER DAUGHTER, YOU DIDN'T COME WITH A BOOK.
TO HER DAUGHTER, YOU DIDN'T COME WITH A BOOK.
YOU DIDN'T COME WITH WITH A BOOK.
YOU DIDN'T COME WITH INSTRUCTIONS.
YOU DIDN'T COME WITH INSTRUCTIONS.
>> SHOCKING, PARENTHOOD DOESN'T.
INSTRUCTIONS.
>> SHOCKING, PARENTHOOD DOESN'T.
IF ANYTHING, WHEN YOU PUT A >> SHOCKING, PARENTHOOD DOESN'T.
IF ANYTHING, WHEN YOU PUT A CHILD IN TO A HOME IT MEANS THAT IF ANYTHING, WHEN YOU PUT A CHILD IN TO A HOME IT MEANS THAT PARENTS NEED TO BE SCREENED MORE CHILD IN TO A HOME IT MEANS THAT PARENTS NEED TO BE SCREENED MORE VIGOROUSLY AND BE MATCHED UP PARENTS NEED TO BE SCREENED MORE VIGOROUSLY AND BE MATCHED UP PROPERLY WITH A CHILD THE FACT VIGOROUSLY AND BE MATCHED UP PROPERLY WITH A CHILD THE FACT THAT WE'RE NOT DOING THAT WE'RE PROPERLY WITH A CHILD THE FACT THAT WE'RE NOT DOING THAT WE'RE FAILING THEE KIDS.
THAT WE'RE NOT DOING THAT WE'RE FAILING THEE KIDS.
>> THIS IS ABSOLUTELY FAILING THEE KIDS.
>> THIS IS ABSOLUTELY DESPICABLE.
>> THIS IS ABSOLUTELY DESPICABLE.
COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO IS AN DESPICABLE.
COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO IS AN ADOPTE, THE MONITORING NEEDS TO COMING FROM SOMEONE WHO IS AN ADOPTE, THE MONITORING NEEDS TO HAPPEN BUT THE PROBLEM IS WHEN ADOPTE, THE MONITORING NEEDS TO HAPPEN BUT THE PROBLEM IS WHEN YOU INTERNATIONALLY ADOPT VERSUS HAPPEN BUT THE PROBLEM IS WHEN YOU INTERNATIONALLY ADOPT VERSUS LOCALLY OR DOMESTICALLY ADOPT YOU INTERNATIONALLY ADOPT VERSUS LOCALLY OR DOMESTICALLY ADOPT THE RULES ARE DIFFERENT.
LOCALLY OR DOMESTICALLY ADOPT THE RULES ARE DIFFERENT.
ONCE YOU BRING THAT CHILD IN TO THE RULES ARE DIFFERENT.
ONCE YOU BRING THAT CHILD IN TO THE STATE THE INTERNATIONAL ONCE YOU BRING THAT CHILD IN TO THE STATE THE INTERNATIONAL COUNTRY WIPES THE HANDS, THEY'RE THE STATE THE INTERNATIONAL COUNTRY WIPES THE HANDS, THEY'RE DONE THERE.
COUNTRY WIPES THE HANDS, THEY'RE DONE THERE.
IS NO WAY TO MONITOR.
DONE THERE.
IS NO WAY TO MONITOR.
WE DON'T KNOW AS SOCIETY WHO IS IS NO WAY TO MONITOR.
WE DON'T KNOW AS SOCIETY WHO IS BRINGING WHAT CHILD IN UNTIL WE DON'T KNOW AS SOCIETY WHO IS BRINGING WHAT CHILD IN UNTIL THEY START GOING TO SCHOOL AND BRINGING WHAT CHILD IN UNTIL THEY START GOING TO SCHOOL AND GET REGISTERED FOR SHOTS AND THEY START GOING TO SCHOOL AND GET REGISTERED FOR SHOTS AND THINGS.
GET REGISTERED FOR SHOTS AND THINGS.
IT'S HORRIBLE.
THINGS.
IT'S HORRIBLE.
I DON'T KNOW NECESSARILY IF WE IT'S HORRIBLE.
I DON'T KNOW NECESSARILY IF WE NEED MORE RULES WE NEED TO I DON'T KNOW NECESSARILY IF WE NEED MORE RULES WE NEED TO MONITORING, BUT WE NEED TO FIND NEED MORE RULES WE NEED TO MONITORING, BUT WE NEED TO FIND SOME TYPE OF SYSTEM WHERE WHEN MONITORING, BUT WE NEED TO FIND SOME TYPE OF SYSTEM WHERE WHEN THESE KIDS LEAVE THE COUNTRIES SOME TYPE OF SYSTEM WHERE WHEN THESE KIDS LEAVE THE COUNTRIES THAT WE KNOW THAT THEY'RE SAFE THESE KIDS LEAVE THE COUNTRIES THAT WE KNOW THAT THEY'RE SAFE NOT BEING TRADED.
THAT WE KNOW THAT THEY'RE SAFE NOT BEING TRADED.
>> I THINK WE NEED MORE NOT BEING TRADED.
>> I THINK WE NEED MORE RESOURCES, EVEN MORE RULES >> I THINK WE NEED MORE RESOURCES, EVEN MORE RULES BECAUSE IT'S NOT JUST ADOPTIVE RESOURCES, EVEN MORE RULES BECAUSE IT'S NOT JUST ADOPTIVE PARENTS THAT HAVE PROBLEM WITH BECAUSE IT'S NOT JUST ADOPTIVE PARENTS THAT HAVE PROBLEM WITH KIDS THAT ARE OUT OF CONTROL FOR PARENTS THAT HAVE PROBLEM WITH KIDS THAT ARE OUT OF CONTROL FOR WHATEVER REASON, USUALLY MENTAL KIDS THAT ARE OUT OF CONTROL FOR WHATEVER REASON, USUALLY MENTAL HEALTH REASON.
WHATEVER REASON, USUALLY MENTAL HEALTH REASON.
DON'T KNOW HA TO DO WITH THEM OR HEALTH REASON.
DON'T KNOW HA TO DO WITH THEM OR HOW TO DEAL WITH.
DON'T KNOW HA TO DO WITH THEM OR HOW TO DEAL WITH.
THERE REALLY AREN'T RESOURCES HOW TO DEAL WITH.
THERE REALLY AREN'T RESOURCES EITHER FOR ADOPTIVE PARENTS OR THERE REALLY AREN'T RESOURCES EITHER FOR ADOPTIVE PARENTS OR NATURAL PARENTS WHERE THERE ARE EITHER FOR ADOPTIVE PARENTS OR NATURAL PARENTS WHERE THERE ARE KIDS WHO NEED MENTAL HEALTH NATURAL PARENTS WHERE THERE ARE KIDS WHO NEED MENTAL HEALTH ASSISTANCE AND THERE AREN'T KIDS WHO NEED MENTAL HEALTH ASSISTANCE AND THERE AREN'T ENOUGH RESOURCES.
ASSISTANCE AND THERE AREN'T ENOUGH RESOURCES.
>> AND COUNTRIES LIKE CHINA, ENOUGH RESOURCES.
>> AND COUNTRIES LIKE CHINA, GUATEMALA AND RUSSIA STARTED >> AND COUNTRIES LIKE CHINA, GUATEMALA AND RUSSIA STARTED PULLING BACK ON U.S. ADOPTIONS, GUATEMALA AND RUSSIA STARTED PULLING BACK ON U.S. ADOPTIONS, OTHERS HAVE A LOT OF THE STANS, PULLING BACK ON U.S. ADOPTIONS, OTHERS HAVE A LOT OF THE STANS, AFGHANISTAN, ET CETERA, YEARS OTHERS HAVE A LOT OF THE STANS, AFGHANISTAN, ET CETERA, YEARS AGO STARTED PULLING BACK.
AFGHANISTAN, ET CETERA, YEARS AGO STARTED PULLING BACK.
BUT USUALLY A LOT OF THESE KIDS AGO STARTED PULLING BACK.
BUT USUALLY A LOT OF THESE KIDS THAT COME FROM FOREIGN COUNTRIES BUT USUALLY A LOT OF THESE KIDS THAT COME FROM FOREIGN COUNTRIES HAVE BEEN IN FOREANAGES WHICH IS THAT COME FROM FOREIGN COUNTRIES HAVE BEEN IN FOREANAGES WHICH IS SOMETHING WE DON'T DO HERE WE HAVE BEEN IN FOREANAGES WHICH IS SOMETHING WE DON'T DO HERE WE PUT THEM IN FOSTER CARE.
SOMETHING WE DON'T DO HERE WE PUT THEM IN FOSTER CARE.
THAT'S AN AVENUE FOR TROUBLE A.
PUT THEM IN FOSTER CARE.
THAT'S AN AVENUE FOR TROUBLE A.
LOT OF THE RUSSIAN KIDS THAT'S AN AVENUE FOR TROUBLE A.
LOT OF THE RUSSIAN KIDS APPARENTLY, THE PARENTS COULDN'T LOT OF THE RUSSIAN KIDS APPARENTLY, THE PARENTS COULDN'T TAKE CARE OF THEM BECAUSE THERE APPARENTLY, THE PARENTS COULDN'T TAKE CARE OF THEM BECAUSE THERE WAS A HUGE PROBLEM WITH TAKE CARE OF THEM BECAUSE THERE WAS A HUGE PROBLEM WITH ALCOHOLISM.
WAS A HUGE PROBLEM WITH ALCOHOLISM.
IS IT REALLY SUCH A GOOD IDEA TO ALCOHOLISM.
IS IT REALLY SUCH A GOOD IDEA TO ALLOW FOREIGN ADOPTIONS?
IS IT REALLY SUCH A GOOD IDEA TO ALLOW FOREIGN ADOPTIONS?
>> I REALLY THINK RESTRICTING ALLOW FOREIGN ADOPTIONS?
>> I REALLY THINK RESTRICTING FOREIGN ADOPTIONS ISN'T FAIR F. >> I REALLY THINK RESTRICTING FOREIGN ADOPTIONS ISN'T FAIR F. FOLKS DESIRE TO HAVE A CHILD FOREIGN ADOPTIONS ISN'T FAIR F. FOLKS DESIRE TO HAVE A CHILD FROM ANOTHER PART OF THE WORLD FOLKS DESIRE TO HAVE A CHILD FROM ANOTHER PART OF THE WORLD BY ALL MEANS SEE THAT WE HAVE FROM ANOTHER PART OF THE WORLD BY ALL MEANS SEE THAT WE HAVE THE FREEDOM.
BY ALL MEANS SEE THAT WE HAVE THE FREEDOM.
WE SHOULDN'T PUNISH EVERYONE FOR THE FREEDOM.
WE SHOULDN'T PUNISH EVERYONE FOR SOME BAD ACTOR.
WE SHOULDN'T PUNISH EVERYONE FOR SOME BAD ACTOR.
I AGREE, RESOURCES NEED TO BE SOME BAD ACTOR.
I AGREE, RESOURCES NEED TO BE THERE.
I AGREE, RESOURCES NEED TO BE THERE.
WHETHER YOU'RE ADOPTING FROM THERE.
WHETHER YOU'RE ADOPTING FROM DOMESTICALLY OR FROM ABROAD I WHETHER YOU'RE ADOPTING FROM DOMESTICALLY OR FROM ABROAD I THINK THERE SHOULD BE THINGS IN DOMESTICALLY OR FROM ABROAD I THINK THERE SHOULD BE THINGS IN POLICE FOR BIOLOGICAL AND LET'S THINK THERE SHOULD BE THINGS IN POLICE FOR BIOLOGICAL AND LET'S SAY ADOPTIVE FOSTER PARENTS TO POLICE FOR BIOLOGICAL AND LET'S SAY ADOPTIVE FOSTER PARENTS TO DO THEIR JOB AS PARENTS BETTER.
SAY ADOPTIVE FOSTER PARENTS TO DO THEIR JOB AS PARENTS BETTER.
IT HELPS SOCIETY, HELPS ALL OF DO THEIR JOB AS PARENTS BETTER.
IT HELPS SOCIETY, HELPS ALL OF US.
IT HELPS SOCIETY, HELPS ALL OF US.
>> BY THE WAY THIS REUTERS NBC US.
>> BY THE WAY THIS REUTERS NBC NEWS INVESTIGATION FOUND 261 >> BY THE WAY THIS REUTERS NBC NEWS INVESTIGATION FOUND 261 CASES OF THIS OVER FIVE YEARS.
NEWS INVESTIGATION FOUND 261 CASES OF THIS OVER FIVE YEARS.
50 CHILDREN A YEAR STILL WAY TOO CASES OF THIS OVER FIVE YEARS.
50 CHILDREN A YEAR STILL WAY TOO MUCH.
50 CHILDREN A YEAR STILL WAY TOO MUCH.
ON THE OTHER HAND THERE ARE TENS MUCH.
ON THE OTHER HAND THERE ARE TENS OF THOUSANDS OF INTERNATIONAL ON THE OTHER HAND THERE ARE TENS OF THOUSANDS OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTIONS IN THIS COUNTRY EVERY OF THOUSANDS OF INTERNATIONAL ADOPTIONS IN THIS COUNTRY EVERY YEAR.
ADOPTIONS IN THIS COUNTRY EVERY YEAR.
>> WHAT I FOUND INTERESTING IS YEAR.
>> WHAT I FOUND INTERESTING IS THE FACT THAT THE MONEY THAT >> WHAT I FOUND INTERESTING IS THE FACT THAT THE MONEY THAT SPENT TO BRING CHILDREN FROM THE FACT THAT THE MONEY THAT SPENT TO BRING CHILDREN FROM INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION IS QUITE SPENT TO BRING CHILDREN FROM INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION IS QUITE COSTLY.
INTERNATIONAL ADOPTION IS QUITE COSTLY.
IT CAN BE ANYWHERE FROM $25,000.
COSTLY.
IT CAN BE ANYWHERE FROM $25,000.
I THINK RUSSIA $50,000 AT THIS IT CAN BE ANYWHERE FROM $25,000.
I THINK RUSSIA $50,000 AT THIS LOW END.
I THINK RUSSIA $50,000 AT THIS LOW END.
MY QUESTION, MY WONDERING IF YOU LOW END.
MY QUESTION, MY WONDERING IF YOU SPENDING THAT MUCH RESOURCES ON MY QUESTION, MY WONDERING IF YOU SPENDING THAT MUCH RESOURCES ON BRINGING THE CHILD WHEN YOU SPENDING THAT MUCH RESOURCES ON BRINGING THE CHILD WHEN YOU BRING THE CHILD HERE YOU FIND BRINGING THE CHILD WHEN YOU BRING THE CHILD HERE YOU FIND THAT THERE ARE PROBLEMS WHY BRING THE CHILD HERE YOU FIND THAT THERE ARE PROBLEMS WHY AREN'T YOU WILLING TO GIVE THE THAT THERE ARE PROBLEMS WHY AREN'T YOU WILLING TO GIVE THE RESOURCE AS PARENT TO FIX THE AREN'T YOU WILLING TO GIVE THE RESOURCE AS PARENT TO FIX THE PROBLEM.
RESOURCE AS PARENT TO FIX THE PROBLEM.
THERE'S A DISCONNECT.
PROBLEM.
THERE'S A DISCONNECT.
MY CONCERN THESE PEOPLE WANT A THERE'S A DISCONNECT.
MY CONCERN THESE PEOPLE WANT A BABY, BUT THEN WHEN IT'S NOT MY CONCERN THESE PEOPLE WANT A BABY, BUT THEN WHEN IT'S NOT PERFECT, I CAN'T HANDLE IT, WE BABY, BUT THEN WHEN IT'S NOT PERFECT, I CAN'T HANDLE IT, WE NEED TO ADDRESS THAT ISSUE THAT PERFECT, I CAN'T HANDLE IT, WE NEED TO ADDRESS THAT ISSUE THAT AS YOU SAID RESOURCES AND NEED TO ADDRESS THAT ISSUE THAT AS YOU SAID RESOURCES AND SHOWING PARENTS THAT THEY CAN AS YOU SAID RESOURCES AND SHOWING PARENTS THAT THEY CAN HAVE THE HELP THEY NEED.
SHOWING PARENTS THAT THEY CAN HAVE THE HELP THEY NEED.
>> BUT ADOPTIVE AGE ENENSEES DO HAVE THE HELP THEY NEED.
>> BUT ADOPTIVE AGE ENENSEES DO THEY HAVE MORE OF BURRED TONE >> BUT ADOPTIVE AGE ENENSEES DO THEY HAVE MORE OF BURRED TONE PRE-INFORM AMERICANS TO GO THEY HAVE MORE OF BURRED TONE PRE-INFORM AMERICANS TO GO OVERSEAS BECAUSE THEY CAN'T FIND PRE-INFORM AMERICANS TO GO OVERSEAS BECAUSE THEY CAN'T FIND CHILDREN HERE ADOPTING A CHILD OVERSEAS BECAUSE THEY CAN'T FIND CHILDREN HERE ADOPTING A CHILD HERE TO FREQUENTLY MUCH MORE CHILDREN HERE ADOPTING A CHILD HERE TO FREQUENTLY MUCH MORE EXPENSIVE THAN THAT.
HERE TO FREQUENTLY MUCH MORE EXPENSIVE THAN THAT.
DO THEY HAVE DUTY TO SAY, LOOK, EXPENSIVE THAN THAT.
DO THEY HAVE DUTY TO SAY, LOOK, THIS KID -- THE BIRTH MOTHER WAS DO THEY HAVE DUTY TO SAY, LOOK, THIS KID -- THE BIRTH MOTHER WAS ALCOHOLIC AND THAT'S WHY HE/SHE THIS KID -- THE BIRTH MOTHER WAS ALCOHOLIC AND THAT'S WHY HE/SHE WAS GIVEN UP YOU HAVE TO DEAL ALCOHOLIC AND THAT'S WHY HE/SHE WAS GIVEN UP YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH X, Z.
WAS GIVEN UP YOU HAVE TO DEAL WITH X, Z.
>> THE LESS PROBLEMS THAT THEY WITH X, Z.
>> THE LESS PROBLEMS THAT THEY WILL HAVE OR CONNECTION TO MAKE >> THE LESS PROBLEMS THAT THEY WILL HAVE OR CONNECTION TO MAKE A CHOICE HAVE RESOURCES THEY WILL HAVE OR CONNECTION TO MAKE A CHOICE HAVE RESOURCES THEY NEED IN ORDER TO ADDRESS THE A CHOICE HAVE RESOURCES THEY NEED IN ORDER TO ADDRESS THE ISSUES.
NEED IN ORDER TO ADDRESS THE ISSUES.
WHAT WAS SHOCKING WAS THAT THIS ISSUES.
WHAT WAS SHOCKING WAS THAT THIS ROUTER REPORT WHEN THEY WHAT WAS SHOCKING WAS THAT THIS ROUTER REPORT WHEN THEY CONFRONTED ONE OF THESE ADOPTION ROUTER REPORT WHEN THEY CONFRONTED ONE OF THESE ADOPTION AGENCIES THEY HAD NO IDEA THIS CONFRONTED ONE OF THESE ADOPTION AGENCIES THEY HAD NO IDEA THIS WAS HAPPENING.
AGENCIES THEY HAD NO IDEA THIS WAS HAPPENING.
TO ME THAT IS A BIT SHOCKING WAS HAPPENING.
TO ME THAT IS A BIT SHOCKING THAT MEANS THAT YOU DON'T TO ME THAT IS A BIT SHOCKING THAT MEANS THAT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE UNDERGROUND THAT MEANS THAT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE UNDERGROUND ENVIRONMENT, THE BLACK MARKET UNDERSTAND THE UNDERGROUND ENVIRONMENT, THE BLACK MARKET THAT IS BEING CREATED THAT THEY ENVIRONMENT, THE BLACK MARKET THAT IS BEING CREATED THAT THEY ARE VERY MUCH A PART OF.
THAT IS BEING CREATED THAT THEY ARE VERY MUCH A PART OF.
>> SO, WHAT'S THE SOLUTION TO ARE VERY MUCH A PART OF.
>> SO, WHAT'S THE SOLUTION TO THAT?
>> SO, WHAT'S THE SOLUTION TO THAT?
SHOULD THE ADOPTION AGENCIES BE THAT?
SHOULD THE ADOPTION AGENCIES BE REQUIRED TO STAY IN TOUCH WITH SHOULD THE ADOPTION AGENCIES BE REQUIRED TO STAY IN TOUCH WITH THE FAMILY TEN YEARS OUT?
REQUIRED TO STAY IN TOUCH WITH THE FAMILY TEN YEARS OUT?
>> I THINK THAT IF YOU'RE DOING THE FAMILY TEN YEARS OUT?
>> I THINK THAT IF YOU'RE DOING A TRANS-- NOT BE COMPLETELY >> I THINK THAT IF YOU'RE DOING A TRANS-- NOT BE COMPLETELY CALCULATED.
A TRANS-- NOT BE COMPLETELY CALCULATED.
BUT IF YOU'RE DOING A CALCULATED.
BUT IF YOU'RE DOING A TRANSACTION OF $50,000 YOU HAVE BUT IF YOU'RE DOING A TRANSACTION OF $50,000 YOU HAVE INCENTIVE TO HAVE THE CHILD TRANSACTION OF $50,000 YOU HAVE INCENTIVE TO HAVE THE CHILD BEING PROPERLY BEING TAKEN CARE INCENTIVE TO HAVE THE CHILD BEING PROPERLY BEING TAKEN CARE OF MAKING SURE THAT THE PARENTS BEING PROPERLY BEING TAKEN CARE OF MAKING SURE THAT THE PARENTS HAVE RESOURCES WHETHER IT'S IN OF MAKING SURE THAT THE PARENTS HAVE RESOURCES WHETHER IT'S IN THE COMMUNITY OR WHAT HAVE YOU HAVE RESOURCES WHETHER IT'S IN THE COMMUNITY OR WHAT HAVE YOU TO MAKE SURE ADJUSTING PROPERLY.
THE COMMUNITY OR WHAT HAVE YOU TO MAKE SURE ADJUSTING PROPERLY.
WHILE YOU CAN BLAME A LOT ON THE TO MAKE SURE ADJUSTING PROPERLY.
WHILE YOU CAN BLAME A LOT ON THE CHILD IT COULD ALSO BE THE WHILE YOU CAN BLAME A LOT ON THE CHILD IT COULD ALSO BE THE PARENTS THAT MAYBE WEREN'T READY CHILD IT COULD ALSO BE THE PARENTS THAT MAYBE WEREN'T READY FOR THE PROCESS AS WELL.
PARENTS THAT MAYBE WEREN'T READY FOR THE PROCESS AS WELL.
>> ALL RIGHT.
FOR THE PROCESS AS WELL.
>> ALL RIGHT.
BEHIND THE HEADLINES: ONLY >> ALL RIGHT.
BEHIND THE HEADLINES: ONLY CHILDREN.
BEHIND THE HEADLINES: ONLY CHILDREN.
CHILDREN WITHOUT SIBLINGS ARE CHILDREN.
CHILDREN WITHOUT SIBLINGS ARE SOMETIMES THOUGHT TO BE CHILDREN WITHOUT SIBLINGS ARE SOMETIMES THOUGHT TO BE EGOTISTICAL, BOSSY, OR LONELY.
SOMETIMES THOUGHT TO BE EGOTISTICAL, BOSSY, OR LONELY.
BUT A NEW BOOK ARGUES HAVING ONE EGOTISTICAL, BOSSY, OR LONELY.
BUT A NEW BOOK ARGUES HAVING ONE CHILD CAN BE A GOOD THING.
BUT A NEW BOOK ARGUES HAVING ONE CHILD CAN BE A GOOD THING.
>> I WAS AMAZED AT HOW MUCH CHILD CAN BE A GOOD THING.
>> I WAS AMAZED AT HOW MUCH ERRONEOUS INFORMATION THERE IS >> I WAS AMAZED AT HOW MUCH ERRONEOUS INFORMATION THERE IS OUT THERE.
ERRONEOUS INFORMATION THERE IS OUT THERE.
AND ALSO HOW MUCH I THINK THAT OUT THERE.
AND ALSO HOW MUCH I THINK THAT ERRONEOUS INFORMATION TENDS TO AND ALSO HOW MUCH I THINK THAT ERRONEOUS INFORMATION TENDS TO >> AN ONLY CHILD IS A FAIRLY NEW ERRONEOUS INFORMATION TENDS TO >> AN ONLY CHILD IS A FAIRLY NEW CONCEPT IN HUMAN HISTORY.
>> AN ONLY CHILD IS A FAIRLY NEW CONCEPT IN HUMAN HISTORY.
AS SOCIETY HAS EVOLVED, THE CONCEPT IN HUMAN HISTORY.
AS SOCIETY HAS EVOLVED, THE BIRTHRATE HAS SHARPLY DECLINED.
AS SOCIETY HAS EVOLVED, THE BIRTHRATE HAS SHARPLY DECLINED.
NOW, THE AVERAGE FAMILY HAS TWO BIRTHRATE HAS SHARPLY DECLINED.
NOW, THE AVERAGE FAMILY HAS TWO CHILDREN.
NOW, THE AVERAGE FAMILY HAS TWO CHILDREN.
ONE QUARTER HAVE ONLY ONE CHILD.
CHILDREN.
ONE QUARTER HAVE ONLY ONE CHILD.
JUST MORE THAN TWO DECADES AGO ONE QUARTER HAVE ONLY ONE CHILD.
JUST MORE THAN TWO DECADES AGO THAT FIGURE WAS A MERE 10% OF JUST MORE THAN TWO DECADES AGO THAT FIGURE WAS A MERE 10% OF FAMILIES.
THAT FIGURE WAS A MERE 10% OF FAMILIES.
SOME COUPLES HAVE ONE CHILD AS FAMILIES.
SOME COUPLES HAVE ONE CHILD AS AN ENVIRONMENTAL STATEMENT.
SOME COUPLES HAVE ONE CHILD AS AN ENVIRONMENTAL STATEMENT.
SOME ARE EXPERIENCED ABOUT THE AN ENVIRONMENTAL STATEMENT.
SOME ARE EXPERIENCED ABOUT THE COST OF RAISING CHILDREN.
SOME ARE EXPERIENCED ABOUT THE COST OF RAISING CHILDREN.
OTHERS BELIEVE ONE CHILD IS COST OF RAISING CHILDREN.
OTHERS BELIEVE ONE CHILD IS BETTER FOR PARENTS AND FOR THE OTHERS BELIEVE ONE CHILD IS BETTER FOR PARENTS AND FOR THE CHILD BETTER FOR PARENTS AND FOR THE CHILD >> ONLY CHILDREN DO TEND TO HAVE CHILD >> ONLY CHILDREN DO TEND TO HAVE HIGHER ACHIEVEMENT MOTIVATION, >> ONLY CHILDREN DO TEND TO HAVE HIGHER ACHIEVEMENT MOTIVATION, AND THEY TEND TO NOT BE AS HIGHER ACHIEVEMENT MOTIVATION, AND THEY TEND TO NOT BE AS LONELY AS PEOPLE THINK.
AND THEY TEND TO NOT BE AS LONELY AS PEOPLE THINK.
WE TEND TO HAVE HIGHER LONELY AS PEOPLE THINK.
WE TEND TO HAVE HIGHER INTELLIGENCE.
WE TEND TO HAVE HIGHER INTELLIGENCE.
I SAY WE BECAUSE I'M AN ONLY INTELLIGENCE.
I SAY WE BECAUSE I'M AN ONLY CHILD AND I'M SURE I REALLY I SAY WE BECAUSE I'M AN ONLY CHILD AND I'M SURE I REALLY SOUND LIKE ONE SAYING "WE HAVE CHILD AND I'M SURE I REALLY SOUND LIKE ONE SAYING "WE HAVE HIGHER INTELLIGENCE," BUT YOU SOUND LIKE ONE SAYING "WE HAVE HIGHER INTELLIGENCE," BUT YOU KNOW, THE PRECOCIOUS BIT IS HIGHER INTELLIGENCE," BUT YOU KNOW, THE PRECOCIOUS BIT IS TRUE.
KNOW, THE PRECOCIOUS BIT IS TRUE.
>> THIS COULD RESULT FROM TRUE.
>> THIS COULD RESULT FROM GREATER PARENTAL ATTENTION AND >> THIS COULD RESULT FROM GREATER PARENTAL ATTENTION AND RESOURCES FOCUSED ON ONE CHILD.
GREATER PARENTAL ATTENTION AND RESOURCES FOCUSED ON ONE CHILD.
SANDLER SAYS DUE TO SOCIAL RESOURCES FOCUSED ON ONE CHILD.
SANDLER SAYS DUE TO SOCIAL POLICIES, PARENTS HAVE SANDLER SAYS DUE TO SOCIAL POLICIES, PARENTS HAVE LITTLE TIME AND ENERGY TO RAISE POLICIES, PARENTS HAVE LITTLE TIME AND ENERGY TO RAISE MANY CHILDREN.
LITTLE TIME AND ENERGY TO RAISE MANY CHILDREN.
>> I DID A LOT OF REPORTING IN MANY CHILDREN.
>> I DID A LOT OF REPORTING IN EUROPE WHEN I WAS RESEARCHING >> I DID A LOT OF REPORTING IN EUROPE WHEN I WAS RESEARCHING THE BOOK AND IT IS AMAZING TO GO EUROPE WHEN I WAS RESEARCHING THE BOOK AND IT IS AMAZING TO GO OVER THERE AND LISTEN TO PEOPLE THE BOOK AND IT IS AMAZING TO GO OVER THERE AND LISTEN TO PEOPLE TALK ABOUT THEIR LIVES, WHICH OVER THERE AND LISTEN TO PEOPLE TALK ABOUT THEIR LIVES, WHICH YOU KNOW, PARENTING IS STILL TALK ABOUT THEIR LIVES, WHICH YOU KNOW, PARENTING IS STILL HARD OVER THERE.
YOU KNOW, PARENTING IS STILL HARD OVER THERE.
BUT WHEN YOU HAVE GREAT DAYCARE HARD OVER THERE.
BUT WHEN YOU HAVE GREAT DAYCARE UNTIL SIX O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING BUT WHEN YOU HAVE GREAT DAYCARE UNTIL SIX O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING AND HEALTH CARE COVERED, AND UNTIL SIX O'CLOCK IN THE EVENING AND HEALTH CARE COVERED, AND DECENT COLLEGE PAID FOR, IT'S A AND HEALTH CARE COVERED, AND DECENT COLLEGE PAID FOR, IT'S A VERY, VERY DIFFERENT STRUGGLE.
DECENT COLLEGE PAID FOR, IT'S A VERY, VERY DIFFERENT STRUGGLE.
A LOT OF WOMEN SAID THIS IS TOO VERY, VERY DIFFERENT STRUGGLE.
A LOT OF WOMEN SAID THIS IS TOO TOUGH, I'M NOT DOING THIS, AND A LOT OF WOMEN SAID THIS IS TOO TOUGH, I'M NOT DOING THIS, AND BASICALLY WENT ON BIRTH STRIKE.
TOUGH, I'M NOT DOING THIS, AND BASICALLY WENT ON BIRTH STRIKE.
AND LAWMAKERS PAID ATTENTION AND BASICALLY WENT ON BIRTH STRIKE.
AND LAWMAKERS PAID ATTENTION AND SAID WE HAVE TO RECONCILE THIS AND LAWMAKERS PAID ATTENTION AND SAID WE HAVE TO RECONCILE THIS CONFLICT BETWEEN PARENTING AND SAID WE HAVE TO RECONCILE THIS CONFLICT BETWEEN PARENTING AND WORK OR NO ONE IS GOING TO WANT CONFLICT BETWEEN PARENTING AND WORK OR NO ONE IS GOING TO WANT TO BE A PARENT.
WORK OR NO ONE IS GOING TO WANT TO BE A PARENT.
DESPITE POLICY DIFFERENCES TO BE A PARENT.
DESPITE POLICY DIFFERENCES AMERICANS STILL DESPITE POLICY DIFFERENCES AMERICANS STILL DO NOT SEE SINGLE CHILD FAMILIES AMERICANS STILL DO NOT SEE SINGLE CHILD FAMILIES AS THE OPTIMAL STRUCTURE.
DO NOT SEE SINGLE CHILD FAMILIES AS THE OPTIMAL STRUCTURE.
MANY PEOPLE ARE AFRAID THAT AN AS THE OPTIMAL STRUCTURE.
MANY PEOPLE ARE AFRAID THAT AN ONLY CHILD WILL GROW UP TO BE MANY PEOPLE ARE AFRAID THAT AN ONLY CHILD WILL GROW UP TO BE LONELY.
ONLY CHILD WILL GROW UP TO BE LONELY.
AN OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY STUDY LONELY.
AN OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY STUDY FOUND THAT ONLY CHILDREN HAD AN OHIO STATE UNIVERSITY STUDY FOUND THAT ONLY CHILDREN HAD MORE TROUBLE FINDING FRIENDS IN FOUND THAT ONLY CHILDREN HAD MORE TROUBLE FINDING FRIENDS IN KINDERGARTEN.
MORE TROUBLE FINDING FRIENDS IN KINDERGARTEN.
BUT SANDLER CITES RESEARCH THAT KINDERGARTEN.
BUT SANDLER CITES RESEARCH THAT ALONE TIME MAY BE IN FACT BUT SANDLER CITES RESEARCH THAT ALONE TIME MAY BE IN FACT COMFORTING FOR ONLY CHILDREN.
ALONE TIME MAY BE IN FACT COMFORTING FOR ONLY CHILDREN.
>> WHEN WE SEE A CHILD ALONE, COMFORTING FOR ONLY CHILDREN.
>> WHEN WE SEE A CHILD ALONE, ASSUME THAT THERE'S AN >> WHEN WE SEE A CHILD ALONE, ASSUME THAT THERE'S AN EXPERIENCE OF LONELINESS.
ASSUME THAT THERE'S AN EXPERIENCE OF LONELINESS.
IT'S A VISCERAL RESPONSE WE TEND EXPERIENCE OF LONELINESS.
IT'S A VISCERAL RESPONSE WE TEND TO HAVE.
IT'S A VISCERAL RESPONSE WE TEND TO HAVE.
WE TEND NOT TO THINK, "OH, YOU TO HAVE.
WE TEND NOT TO THINK, "OH, YOU COULD BE PERFECTLY HAPPY ALONE."
WE TEND NOT TO THINK, "OH, YOU COULD BE PERFECTLY HAPPY ALONE."
YOU COULD BE ENJOYING YOUR TIME COULD BE PERFECTLY HAPPY ALONE."
YOU COULD BE ENJOYING YOUR TIME ON YOUR OWN.
YOU COULD BE ENJOYING YOUR TIME ON YOUR OWN.
IT'S INTERESTING THAT WE ALWAYS ON YOUR OWN.
IT'S INTERESTING THAT WE ALWAYS EQUATE BEING ALONE WITH IT'S INTERESTING THAT WE ALWAYS EQUATE BEING ALONE WITH LONELINESS WHEN FOR A LOT OF EQUATE BEING ALONE WITH LONELINESS WHEN FOR A LOT OF PEOPLE SOLITUDE IS A VERY, VERY LONELINESS WHEN FOR A LOT OF PEOPLE SOLITUDE IS A VERY, VERY VALUABLE EXPERIENCE.
PEOPLE SOLITUDE IS A VERY, VERY VALUABLE EXPERIENCE.
>> WHETHER CORRECT OR INCORRECT, VALUABLE EXPERIENCE.
>> WHETHER CORRECT OR INCORRECT, STIGMA TOWARDS HAVING ONLY ONE >> WHETHER CORRECT OR INCORRECT, STIGMA TOWARDS HAVING ONLY ONE CHILD REMAINS.
STIGMA TOWARDS HAVING ONLY ONE CHILD REMAINS.
>> ALL I'M TRYING TO DO IS PUT CHILD REMAINS.
>> ALL I'M TRYING TO DO IS PUT SOME BETTER INFORMATION OUT >> ALL I'M TRYING TO DO IS PUT SOME BETTER INFORMATION OUT THERE AND HELP PEOPLE NOT VILIFY SOME BETTER INFORMATION OUT THERE AND HELP PEOPLE NOT VILIFY THIS CHOICE QUITE AS MUCH.
THERE AND HELP PEOPLE NOT VILIFY THIS CHOICE QUITE AS MUCH.
>> DO THEY VILIFY IT, DARLENE THIS CHOICE QUITE AS MUCH.
>> DO THEY VILIFY IT, DARLENE KENNEDY.
>> DO THEY VILIFY IT, DARLENE KENNEDY.
>> I THINK SOMETIMES THEY DO.
KENNEDY.
>> I THINK SOMETIMES THEY DO.
I GREW UP AS AN ONLY CHILD, THAT >> I THINK SOMETIMES THEY DO.
I GREW UP AS AN ONLY CHILD, THAT BEING SAID I HAD AN EXTENDED I GREW UP AS AN ONLY CHILD, THAT BEING SAID I HAD AN EXTENDED FAMILY, COWS INS, FRIENDS, BEING SAID I HAD AN EXTENDED FAMILY, COWS INS, FRIENDS, THINGS LIKE THAT.
FAMILY, COWS INS, FRIENDS, THINGS LIKE THAT.
THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING THINGS LIKE THAT.
THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING AN ONLY CHILD SHE DIDN'T KISS THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING AN ONLY CHILD SHE DIDN'T KISS CUSS IT ON TAPE BUT ONE OF THE AN ONLY CHILD SHE DIDN'T KISS CUSS IT ON TAPE BUT ONE OF THE CONCERNS OR PROBLEMS THAT I RAN CUSS IT ON TAPE BUT ONE OF THE CONCERNS OR PROBLEMS THAT I RAN ACROSS AS ONLY CHILD DEALING CONCERNS OR PROBLEMS THAT I RAN ACROSS AS ONLY CHILD DEALING WITH AGED PARENTS.
ACROSS AS ONLY CHILD DEALING WITH AGED PARENTS.
MOTHER WHO DIED OF TERMINAL WITH AGED PARENTS.
MOTHER WHO DIED OF TERMINAL CANCER, FATHER WHO HAT MOTHER WHO DIED OF TERMINAL CANCER, FATHER WHO HAT ALZHEIMER'S I HAD NO ONE TO TURN CANCER, FATHER WHO HAT ALZHEIMER'S I HAD NO ONE TO TURN TO SAY I NEED HELP WITH MOM AND ALZHEIMER'S I HAD NO ONE TO TURN TO SAY I NEED HELP WITH MOM AND DAD.
TO SAY I NEED HELP WITH MOM AND DAD.
THERE ARE ISSUES THAT ARE DAD.
THERE ARE ISSUES THAT ARE CONCERNS FOR ONLY CHILDREN, BUT THERE ARE ISSUES THAT ARE CONCERNS FOR ONLY CHILDREN, BUT THE OTHER SIDE OF THAT IS, I'M CONCERNS FOR ONLY CHILDREN, BUT THE OTHER SIDE OF THAT IS, I'M GLAD THAT MY PARENTS DIDN'T SAY, THE OTHER SIDE OF THAT IS, I'M GLAD THAT MY PARENTS DIDN'T SAY, WELL, WE GOT TO ADOPT ANOTHER GLAD THAT MY PARENTS DIDN'T SAY, WELL, WE GOT TO ADOPT ANOTHER KID SO YOU'RE NOT ALONE WHEN WE WELL, WE GOT TO ADOPT ANOTHER KID SO YOU'RE NOT ALONE WHEN WE DIE.
KID SO YOU'RE NOT ALONE WHEN WE DIE.
THAT'S JUST THE WRONG ATTITUDE.
DIE.
THAT'S JUST THE WRONG ATTITUDE.
>> WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT IS THAT'S JUST THE WRONG ATTITUDE.
>> WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT IS THE BIGGEST THING, STRESS.
>> WHEN YOU THINK ABOUT WHAT IS THE BIGGEST THING, STRESS.
NOT ENOUGH TIME AND ATTENTION THE BIGGEST THING, STRESS.
NOT ENOUGH TIME AND ATTENTION FROM THE PARENTS.
NOT ENOUGH TIME AND ATTENTION FROM THE PARENTS.
TOO MUCH WORK, HAVING TO GET FROM THE PARENTS.
TOO MUCH WORK, HAVING TO GET DONE.
TOO MUCH WORK, HAVING TO GET DONE.
IT REALLY MAKES MORE SENSE DONE.
IT REALLY MAKES MORE SENSE UNLESS ONE OR BOTH PARENTS ARE IT REALLY MAKES MORE SENSE UNLESS ONE OR BOTH PARENTS ARE GOING TO STAY HOME FULL TIME TO UNLESS ONE OR BOTH PARENTS ARE GOING TO STAY HOME FULL TIME TO HAVE AN ONLY CHILD, TO HAVE ONE GOING TO STAY HOME FULL TIME TO HAVE AN ONLY CHILD, TO HAVE ONE CHILD.
HAVE AN ONLY CHILD, TO HAVE ONE CHILD.
>> I REMEMBER WELL WHEN I WAS CHILD.
>> I REMEMBER WELL WHEN I WAS PREGNANT WITH MY SECOND CHILD, >> I REMEMBER WELL WHEN I WAS PREGNANT WITH MY SECOND CHILD, FRIENDS SAYING, WELL, ONE IS ONE PREGNANT WITH MY SECOND CHILD, FRIENDS SAYING, WELL, ONE IS ONE AND TWO IS TEN.
FRIENDS SAYING, WELL, ONE IS ONE AND TWO IS TEN.
NEVER TRUER WORDS WERE SPOKEN.
AND TWO IS TEN.
NEVER TRUER WORDS WERE SPOKEN.
I THINK I'M ONLY ONE HERE WHO NEVER TRUER WORDS WERE SPOKEN.
I THINK I'M ONLY ONE HERE WHO DOESN'T HAVE A CHILD.
I THINK I'M ONLY ONE HERE WHO DOESN'T HAVE A CHILD.
I THINK WHEN IT COMES MY TIME DOESN'T HAVE A CHILD.
I THINK WHEN IT COMES MY TIME WHAT'S HAPPENING THAT I'M I THINK WHEN IT COMES MY TIME WHAT'S HAPPENING THAT I'M CONCERNED ABOUT MY CAREER I'M WHAT'S HAPPENING THAT I'M CONCERNED ABOUT MY CAREER I'M THINKING TO MYSELF HOW AM I CONCERNED ABOUT MY CAREER I'M THINKING TO MYSELF HOW AM I GOING TO JUGGLE IT.
THINKING TO MYSELF HOW AM I GOING TO JUGGLE IT.
I'VE SEEN MY MOM DO IT, I'M ONE GOING TO JUGGLE IT.
I'VE SEEN MY MOM DO IT, I'M ONE OF THREE.
I'VE SEEN MY MOM DO IT, I'M ONE OF THREE.
IT WAS GREAT WAY TO GROW UP THEN OF THREE.
IT WAS GREAT WAY TO GROW UP THEN AGAIN I LOOK AT MYSELF I'M LIKE, IT WAS GREAT WAY TO GROW UP THEN AGAIN I LOOK AT MYSELF I'M LIKE, CAN I EVEN HANDLE ONE?
AGAIN I LOOK AT MYSELF I'M LIKE, CAN I EVEN HANDLE ONE?
I MAY GO CHILDLESS, I MAY HAVE CAN I EVEN HANDLE ONE?
I MAY GO CHILDLESS, I MAY HAVE ONE.
I MAY GO CHILDLESS, I MAY HAVE ONE.
THE DAYS OF LONELY ONLY ARE ONE.
THE DAYS OF LONELY ONLY ARE OVER.
THE DAYS OF LONELY ONLY ARE OVER.
WOMEN CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT IF OVER.
WOMEN CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT IF IT'S TOO MUCH STRESS DON'T DO WOMEN CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT IF IT'S TOO MUCH STRESS DON'T DO IT.
IT'S TOO MUCH STRESS DON'T DO IT.
JUST NOT SOMETHING YOU WANT, IT.
JUST NOT SOMETHING YOU WANT, DON'T DO IT.
JUST NOT SOMETHING YOU WANT, DON'T DO IT.
JUST DON'T LISTEN TO SOCIETY ON DON'T DO IT.
JUST DON'T LISTEN TO SOCIETY ON THIS ONE.
JUST DON'T LISTEN TO SOCIETY ON THIS ONE.
>> I AM A MOTHER OF ONE.
THIS ONE.
>> I AM A MOTHER OF ONE.
I'M ABOUT TO HAVE TWO.
>> I AM A MOTHER OF ONE.
I'M ABOUT TO HAVE TWO.
THAT WAS SHOCKING FOR ME.
I'M ABOUT TO HAVE TWO.
THAT WAS SHOCKING FOR ME.
>> SORRY.
THAT WAS SHOCKING FOR ME.
>> SORRY.
>> I'VE HEARD IT.
>> SORRY.
>> I'VE HEARD IT.
ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS WHERE IT'S >> I'VE HEARD IT.
ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS WHERE IT'S A VERY PERSONAL DECISION.
ONE OF THOSE MOMENTS WHERE IT'S A VERY PERSONAL DECISION.
BUT I DO THINK THAT WHAT THE A VERY PERSONAL DECISION.
BUT I DO THINK THAT WHAT THE AUTHOR POINTED OUT IS THAT THE BUT I DO THINK THAT WHAT THE AUTHOR POINTED OUT IS THAT THE SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT THEY DO HAVE AUTHOR POINTED OUT IS THAT THE SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT THEY DO HAVE FROM EUROPE IN ORDER TO MAKE SUPPORT SYSTEM THAT THEY DO HAVE FROM EUROPE IN ORDER TO MAKE SURE THAT THE PARENT IS FROM EUROPE IN ORDER TO MAKE SURE THAT THE PARENT IS SUCCESSFUL, TO MAKE SURE THAT SURE THAT THE PARENT IS SUCCESSFUL, TO MAKE SURE THAT THE CHILDREN ALSO GETTING THE SUCCESSFUL, TO MAKE SURE THAT THE CHILDREN ALSO GETTING THE TYPE OF NUTRITION WHETHER IT'S THE CHILDREN ALSO GETTING THE TYPE OF NUTRITION WHETHER IT'S SCHOOL AND EDUCATION SO THAT TYPE OF NUTRITION WHETHER IT'S SCHOOL AND EDUCATION SO THAT FAMILY AS UNIT IS SURVIVING THAT SCHOOL AND EDUCATION SO THAT FAMILY AS UNIT IS SURVIVING THAT MORE THAN SURVIVING THEY ARE FAMILY AS UNIT IS SURVIVING THAT MORE THAN SURVIVING THEY ARE GIVING BACK TO THE ECONOMY.
MORE THAN SURVIVING THEY ARE GIVING BACK TO THE ECONOMY.
THOSE ARE REALLY TOUGH QUESTIONS GIVING BACK TO THE ECONOMY.
THOSE ARE REALLY TOUGH QUESTIONS THAT WE DON'T LIKE TO HAVE THOSE ARE REALLY TOUGH QUESTIONS THAT WE DON'T LIKE TO HAVE AROUND THE TABLE WHEN WE'RE THAT WE DON'T LIKE TO HAVE AROUND THE TABLE WHEN WE'RE TALKING ABOUT WHAT IT MEANS OF AROUND THE TABLE WHEN WE'RE TALKING ABOUT WHAT IT MEANS OF HAVING EXTENDED FAMILY.
TALKING ABOUT WHAT IT MEANS OF HAVING EXTENDED FAMILY.
THE MORE THAT WE LOOK AT WHAT HAVING EXTENDED FAMILY.
THE MORE THAT WE LOOK AT WHAT OTHER COUNTRIES ARE DOING I THE MORE THAT WE LOOK AT WHAT OTHER COUNTRIES ARE DOING I THINK WE CAN LEARN FROM THEM.
OTHER COUNTRIES ARE DOING I THINK WE CAN LEARN FROM THEM.
>> EUROPE, FIRST OF ALL, JUST THINK WE CAN LEARN FROM THEM.
>> EUROPE, FIRST OF ALL, JUST ONE DIFFERENCE.
>> EUROPE, FIRST OF ALL, JUST ONE DIFFERENCE.
EUROPE BECAUSE WOMEN ARE HAVING ONE DIFFERENCE.
EUROPE BECAUSE WOMEN ARE HAVING FEWER CHILDREN, IT'S AN AGING EUROPE BECAUSE WOMEN ARE HAVING FEWER CHILDREN, IT'S AN AGING SOCIETY.
FEWER CHILDREN, IT'S AN AGING SOCIETY.
WE WITH IMMIGRATION ARE GROWING.
SOCIETY.
WE WITH IMMIGRATION ARE GROWING.
WE DON'T HAVE MANY CHILDREN, OUR WE WITH IMMIGRATION ARE GROWING.
WE DON'T HAVE MANY CHILDREN, OUR FERTILITY RATE IS LOW BUT WE DON'T HAVE MANY CHILDREN, OUR FERTILITY RATE IS LOW BUT BECAUSE OF IMMIGRATION A FERTILITY RATE IS LOW BUT BECAUSE OF IMMIGRATION A MILLION, TWO MILLION, SOMETIMES BECAUSE OF IMMIGRATION A MILLION, TWO MILLION, SOMETIMES THREE MILLION A YEAR INCLUDING MILLION, TWO MILLION, SOMETIMES THREE MILLION A YEAR INCLUDING ILLEGAL IMMIGRATION WE ARE -- THREE MILLION A YEAR INCLUDING ILLEGAL IMMIGRATION WE ARE -- >> THAT'S THE -- ILLEGAL IMMIGRATION WE ARE -- >> THAT'S THE -- >> I'M GLAD THAT YOU BRING THAT >> THAT'S THE -- >> I'M GLAD THAT YOU BRING THAT UP.
>> I'M GLAD THAT YOU BRING THAT UP.
IF YOU WERE TO TAKE OUT UP.
IF YOU WERE TO TAKE OUT IMMIGRANTS AND THEIR CHILDREN IF YOU WERE TO TAKE OUT IMMIGRANTS AND THEIR CHILDREN WE'D HAVE DECLINING POPULATION IMMIGRANTS AND THEIR CHILDREN WE'D HAVE DECLINING POPULATION VERY SIMILAR TO EUROPE.
WE'D HAVE DECLINING POPULATION VERY SIMILAR TO EUROPE.
ONE OF THE REASONS THAT EUROPE VERY SIMILAR TO EUROPE.
ONE OF THE REASONS THAT EUROPE IS AT ECONOMIC STAND STILL THEY ONE OF THE REASONS THAT EUROPE IS AT ECONOMIC STAND STILL THEY DON'T HAVE YOUNG WORKERS, THAT IS AT ECONOMIC STAND STILL THEY DON'T HAVE YOUNG WORKERS, THAT PRODUCTIVITY THAT THEY NEED.
DON'T HAVE YOUNG WORKERS, THAT PRODUCTIVITY THAT THEY NEED.
AND IMMIGRANTS HERE ACTUALLY DO.
PRODUCTIVITY THAT THEY NEED.
AND IMMIGRANTS HERE ACTUALLY DO.
IN BETWEEN 2000 AND 2010 CLOSE AND IMMIGRANTS HERE ACTUALLY DO.
IN BETWEEN 2000 AND 2010 CLOSE TO 90% OF ALL BIRTHS WERE IN BETWEEN 2000 AND 2010 CLOSE TO 90% OF ALL BIRTHS WERE ACTUALLY HISPANICS.
TO 90% OF ALL BIRTHS WERE ACTUALLY HISPANICS.
AND BASICALLY SAYING THEY ARE ACTUALLY HISPANICS.
AND BASICALLY SAYING THEY ARE THE NEXT GENERATION OF AMERICANS AND BASICALLY SAYING THEY ARE THE NEXT GENERATION OF AMERICANS BUT ARE WE MAKING SURE THAT THE NEXT GENERATION OF AMERICANS BUT ARE WE MAKING SURE THAT WE'RE PROVIDING THEM WITH THE BUT ARE WE MAKING SURE THAT WE'RE PROVIDING THEM WITH THE EDUCATION AND ACCESS THAT OTHER WE'RE PROVIDING THEM WITH THE EDUCATION AND ACCESS THAT OTHER GENERATIONS HAVE ENJOYED.
EDUCATION AND ACCESS THAT OTHER GENERATIONS HAVE ENJOYED.
THAT'S A DIFFERENT TOPIC.
GENERATIONS HAVE ENJOYED.
THAT'S A DIFFERENT TOPIC.
>> WHAT ABOUT THE FACT THAT IT'S THAT'S A DIFFERENT TOPIC.
>> WHAT ABOUT THE FACT THAT IT'S CALLED -- YOU WERE AN ONLY >> WHAT ABOUT THE FACT THAT IT'S CALLED -- YOU WERE AN ONLY CHILD, YOU HAD AN ONLY CHILD.
CALLED -- YOU WERE AN ONLY CHILD, YOU HAD AN ONLY CHILD.
WHY NOT JUST SAY ONE CHILD.
CHILD, YOU HAD AN ONLY CHILD.
WHY NOT JUST SAY ONE CHILD.
>> SOCIETY I THINK SOMETIMES WE WHY NOT JUST SAY ONE CHILD.
>> SOCIETY I THINK SOMETIMES WE NEED TO BACK OFF A LITTLE BIT >> SOCIETY I THINK SOMETIMES WE NEED TO BACK OFF A LITTLE BIT WITH THE LABELING AND STIGMA.
NEED TO BACK OFF A LITTLE BIT WITH THE LABELING AND STIGMA.
I COMMEND WOMEN WHO MAKE THE WITH THE LABELING AND STIGMA.
I COMMEND WOMEN WHO MAKE THE DECISION, I WON'T HAVE CHILDREN, I COMMEND WOMEN WHO MAKE THE DECISION, I WON'T HAVE CHILDREN, I DON'T WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN, DECISION, I WON'T HAVE CHILDREN, I DON'T WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN, WHATEVER THE CASE MAY BE WHETHER I DON'T WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN, WHATEVER THE CASE MAY BE WHETHER WHERE AS OTHER PEOPLE WANT TO WHATEVER THE CASE MAY BE WHETHER WHERE AS OTHER PEOPLE WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
WHERE AS OTHER PEOPLE WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN.
THAT SHOULD BE THEIR CHOICE.
HAVE CHILDREN.
THAT SHOULD BE THEIR CHOICE.
WE SHOULDN'T SAY WELL YOU ARE THAT SHOULD BE THEIR CHOICE.
WE SHOULDN'T SAY WELL YOU ARE NOT A GOOD WOMAN OR GOOD WIFE WE SHOULDN'T SAY WELL YOU ARE NOT A GOOD WOMAN OR GOOD WIFE BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T BROUGHT NOT A GOOD WOMAN OR GOOD WIFE BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T BROUGHT CHILDREN IN.
BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T BROUGHT CHILDREN IN.
THAT'S NOT WHAT MAKES YOU WHO CHILDREN IN.
THAT'S NOT WHAT MAKES YOU WHO YOU ARE.
THAT'S NOT WHAT MAKES YOU WHO YOU ARE.
THAT FAMILY AN EXAMPLE IN ANY YOU ARE.
THAT FAMILY AN EXAMPLE IN ANY WAY?
THAT FAMILY AN EXAMPLE IN ANY WAY?
>> I DON'T KNOW THAT I WOULD WAY?
>> I DON'T KNOW THAT I WOULD USE -- WE ALL KNOW WHAT HAPPENED >> I DON'T KNOW THAT I WOULD USE -- WE ALL KNOW WHAT HAPPENED THERE IN THE OVAL OFFICE.
USE -- WE ALL KNOW WHAT HAPPENED THERE IN THE OVAL OFFICE.
YOU HAVE A POINT THERE.
THERE IN THE OVAL OFFICE.
YOU HAVE A POINT THERE.
CHELSEA HAS TURNED OUT WELL YOU HAVE A POINT THERE.
CHELSEA HAS TURNED OUT WELL ADJUSTED.
CHELSEA HAS TURNED OUT WELL ADJUSTED.
THE FIRST FAMILY FOCUSED WERE ADJUSTED.
THE FIRST FAMILY FOCUSED WERE ABLE TO GO OUT GET THEIR DREAM.
THE FIRST FAMILY FOCUSED WERE ABLE TO GO OUT GET THEIR DREAM.
I THINK CHELSEA WAS ABLE TO ABLE TO GO OUT GET THEIR DREAM.
I THINK CHELSEA WAS ABLE TO ACHIEVE HER'S.
I THINK CHELSEA WAS ABLE TO ACHIEVE HER'S.
THE THING IS THAT WE HAVE ACHIEVE HER'S.
THE THING IS THAT WE HAVE TECHNOLOGY NOW.
THE THING IS THAT WE HAVE TECHNOLOGY NOW.
WE HAVE SO MUCH IN THE WORLD TECHNOLOGY NOW.
WE HAVE SO MUCH IN THE WORLD AROUND US TO MAKE US FEEL WE HAVE SO MUCH IN THE WORLD AROUND US TO MAKE US FEEL COMFORTED.
AROUND US TO MAKE US FEEL COMFORTED.
THAT LOBELY ONLY CHILD AGAIN IS COMFORTED.
THAT LOBELY ONLY CHILD AGAIN IS NOT -- HE OR SHE IS NO LOCKER THAT LOBELY ONLY CHILD AGAIN IS NOT -- HE OR SHE IS NO LOCKER LONELY YOU HAVE SO MANY NOT -- HE OR SHE IS NO LOCKER LONELY YOU HAVE SO MANY PARENTING THINGS IN PLACE.
LONELY YOU HAVE SO MANY PARENTING THINGS IN PLACE.
PARENTING ONLY HAMS AT HOME.
PARENTING THINGS IN PLACE.
PARENTING ONLY HAMS AT HOME.
BUT YOU HAVE THINGS IN SOCIETY PARENTING ONLY HAMS AT HOME.
BUT YOU HAVE THINGS IN SOCIETY TO MAKE ONE FEEL THAT THEY CAN BUT YOU HAVE THINGS IN SOCIETY TO MAKE ONE FEEL THAT THEY CAN GO OUT AND FEEL AS AN INDIVIDUAL TO MAKE ONE FEEL THAT THEY CAN GO OUT AND FEEL AS AN INDIVIDUAL EVEN IF YOU'RE ONE OF THREE LIKE GO OUT AND FEEL AS AN INDIVIDUAL EVEN IF YOU'RE ONE OF THREE LIKE ME OR BE A VERY GROUP TYPE EVEN IF YOU'RE ONE OF THREE LIKE ME OR BE A VERY GROUP TYPE PERSON WHERE YOU LIKE BIG FAMILY ME OR BE A VERY GROUP TYPE PERSON WHERE YOU LIKE BIG FAMILY AND COUSINS.
PERSON WHERE YOU LIKE BIG FAMILY AND COUSINS.
>> ALL RIGHT.
AND COUSINS.
>> ALL RIGHT.
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